Have you done this ..? Do a lie to your spouse. Please see yourself, what lies you are doing to your spouse, whether the lie is painful, or a lie for a good.
Often people assume that lying in the household is a fatal thing and the impact is not only for the sustainability of the relationship itself but can also affect the harmony of a relationship within the household itself.
But not just lies, even a honesty can be a cause of disharmony in the household, why can be like that ..? The key here is the placement of when we should lie and when to be honest.
Maybe a story will explain a little bit where that lie can be a virtue and where that honesty can be a bad thing, but it comes back from the nature and character of the couple each.
A husband plans to buy his wife a cloth, after returning from the place of work the husband stopped at a cloth shop to buy cloth for his wife, when he got home the husband gave the cloth he bought for his wife, when he saw the cloth the wife knows that the cloth bought By her husband is a bad fabric, rough cloth, cheap, color is tacky, and of course this cheap cloth. In order to appreciate the giving of her husband to eat the wife is lying.
"My husband the fabric you bought is very nice, the color is good, and it must be expensive, even our neighbors do not have this cloth, and the result of this wife's lie will certainly make the husband happy because his gift is appreciated by his wife. The fabric that was bought by the husband in continuous use by his wife and make the husband happier because the cloth of his gift is always in use, but maybe in the heart of his wife so that this cloth can be quickly damaged "
If at that moment the wife is honest to her husband about the fabric then the event will be different. This is that lying is sometimes necessary and sometimes honesty is painful, but it all depends on the time and place when we should lie and when to be honest.
In a relationship either dating or have a family we should be able to put something in place either honest or lies, because our goal to achieve harmony in relation. I am sure that in a relationship you must never lie, but whether the lies you do it for good or lies to hurt. It's all back to you each.