This one of the wicked strategies that a narcissist will use. They will simply do things and then blame you and play the victim to others. Like there was this time my wife took it upon herself to message a friend of mine that she felt insecure about. She first decided to the text the young woman who was thousands of miles away overseas. She decided to act as if it was I who was messaging the young woman but she quickly found that I was not texting her but it was my wife. The young lady quickly found out that it wasn't me that texted her but it was my narcissist wife who did and told her off. To cover her shame, she came to me after work demanding that I show her my phone to which I did. She then claimed how she was called by the girl out of the blue and told her where my location was that afternoon. So I was like this is weird why wuld the girl who so far away call my wife and she does even have her number.Anyways my wife absolutely threw a pussy fit in the presense of my nephew and you would have believed that all what was going on was actually true. But then when I started engaging her with questions I realized she started shifting the topic. I then decided to read her messages to which I realized she was the one who decided to contacted the girl. I then asked the girl to send me the conversation she had with my wife in screenshots to see what she was talking about only to realize how she bullied and taunted her to get what she wanted. When I confronted her about it, she laughed it off like it was nothing.
You know how to pick 'em. Very scary when someone is sooooo good at this tactic, I can barely notice sometimes.
Yes its I sat down and looked at her ways and studied the patterns.
Great story, and so true. Gaslighting is a grave and serious form of abuse and should be talked about.
Thank you! Yes its hardly spoken about