The weak are generally irritable and easy to get angry. The strong are usually calm and watery and relatively calm. A person who is not strong inside is naturally not calm enough. People who are not calm inside are full of wind and waves. Small things will be magnified infinitely. A person who is not strong inside is always insecure in his heart.
Not strong enough means that it is easily influenced by the outside world, usually as follows: either paying special attention to other people's opinions or living in the eyes of others. Thus losing the ability to judge independently, becoming vacillating and restless.
To be a strong person, you need to have at least the following six quality characteristics: 1) high self-discipline and self-defense; 2) must experience despair; 3) develop the ability to be alone; 4) unrestricted thinking; 5) need A belief; 6) BE YOURSELF (do it yourself).
- Highly self-disciplined and self-black
Why not say confidence? People who are not confident are generally more vulnerable. A confident person, full of confidence in himself, often with positive and positive powers, and always full of passion. All blind self-confidence and self-confidence are self-righteous. There must be real talents in the heart, even if I keep trying to make mistakes, but I can finally reach the peak of the climb.
Where does human confidence come from? And how to cultivate your confidence? High self-confidence comes from a high degree of self-discipline. What is self-discipline? Self-discipline is to manage yourself and restrain yourself. This is a very important ability. Learn to restrain yourself and control your life with a strict schedule to continue to build confidence in this self-discipline. Confidence also represents the ability to control things, even the most basic time can not control, what is confidence?
In addition to self-discipline, the ability to self-black is also very important. The world is big, what birds are there. When you make a little bit of performance on a certain day, many people who know or don't know are behind, and you are talking about right and wrong. From the beginning of the spit, to the assertion of out of context, even the boring black you.
Since black is to laugh at myself, he is black and humorous. Since black is a way of communication, it is also a realm, and it is an alternative cultivation. Since black does not appear until someone says you, it needs the ability to have everything from beginning to end. You must see through those who are boring and vulgar, they will be good at themselves than they are, and when they are boring, they will be shy and leave. - Must experience despair
The meaning of desperation is that you have already passed this period of time. Maybe you haven't been desperate, it doesn't mean you are not strong, but you must have been strong without desperation. An undesired life is an imperfect life. Despair may be emotions, careers, or loneliness that cannot be faced.
"Must" is a prefix word, an important state. "Must" is not an active choice, but a full psychological preparation. When despair comes, accept it without fear, even if it is extremely painful at the moment, even loses itself. Finding hope in despair is a life worthy of experience.
A powerful person is not conquering anything, but what can be sustained. Some things, only experienced, can understand the truth and understand the true meaning of life. Despair is not terrible, terrible is the loss of courage and passion. Experience despair, but don't be swallowed up by despair. On the contrary, you have to overcome it, just like defeating the darkness and welcoming the light. - Develop the ability to be alone
Loneliness and solitude are not one thing, they are two things, and they are often confused. People often regard communication as an ability, but neglecting solitude is also an ability, and in a certain sense is an ability more important than communication. If it is a weakness of character that is not good at communication, then being intolerant is simply a defect of the soul.
To be able to withstand loneliness, not to follow the tide. Lonely is a person's carnival, carnival is a group of people alone. The so-called maturity is that the more you grow up, the more you can learn to adapt to everything. In the time alone, find out what you really love and develop your own independent judgment.
People can only love others if they learn to love themselves first. If you don't learn to talk to yourself, it's even harder to communicate with others. The more people who are able to be alone, the more they can face and understand the dilemma, the more they can get along with others. Because I can change my mind instantly, I can put myself in the shoes of the other side. - Unlimited thinking
Your eyes are farther than others, and your heart is wider than others. The life calculated every day, the future will be calculated by the life sooner or later. In addition, it is also living in a variety of careful eyes and small patterns.
Life is like driving a car. When you are 30 yards faster than others, you can feel that others can't perceive it. Life is like flying a plane. When you are 30,000 feet taller than others, the vision you see is naturally different from others. This means that when you are pursuing a higher and farther beauty, you don't have to care about the short-sighted eyes of others. Everything is naturally cloudless and no longer affected.
After being broad, you will not be bound by narrowism. After freedom, there will be no restrictions on formalism. - Need a faith
People are too limited. No matter what you believe in, there must always be a belief, otherwise there is no difference between them and animals.
In this era, almost everyone has faith, but their beliefs are different. Some people believe in power, some believe in money, some believe in self, some believe in love, some believe in happiness, some believe in food, some believe in parties, some believe in the system, some believe in godless, some believe in God, some believe in many gods, some believe in Christ ......
No matter what kind of beliefs are worthy of respect, and any belief needs to be deeply understood and believed, it can be called a belief. Any kind of belief, if it is a confused letter, can not be called faith, is superstitious, all religious beliefs including Christianity.
Wisdom and truth have a distance from heaven to earth. Learning to thirst for truth is better than pursuing wisdom. Truth enables people to look at the world more wisely, tolerant attitudes face intricate interpersonal relationships, incomparable convictions to run the path of life, calmly face the darkness of human nature and the tragedy of the world. - BE YOURSELF (be yourself)
JUST BE YOURSELF. Don't try to please everyone, you can't do it now, you can't do it in the future.
People cannot be all-inclusive. Everyone should have the people they care the most, they are the most precious treasure in your life. If they misunderstand or question what you are doing, it is worth your time to respond and explain.
The following are the three groups that individuals care about most, for reference only: 1. Family (relatives are not counted, only one time in a year, it is not clear about your life orientation); 2. Life confidant (a few real friends) , everything knows the roots); 3, pastor or mentor (spiritual mentor, and the leader of the workplace).
Their comments/comments/suggestions will be listened to carefully. If there is no understanding, it will be fully explained and responded. Only those who really care about you have a relatively comprehensive understanding of you. Most of others are one-sided cognition. There is no special intersection in life, and some are just hearsay or just a few faces.
You don't have to respond to familiar strangers, they don't necessarily care about you, they just curious about the baby. Time is so precious that it does not take care of these and is not in the scope of the obligation to explain. Your life does not need to live in the words of others, there are many more important things waiting to be done.
People with strong inner strengths rarely care about the opinions of others, including familiar strangers. Just as positive people pay little attention to negative information, even if they see it, they are automatically blocked or digested in an instant. They are very clear about their positioning and pursuit.
When you encounter obstacles, you will try your best to eradicate them. In the face of setbacks, it is not easy to give up and fall. Overcoming difficulties, you have the power. When the problem is solved, it has wisdom. Out of the darkness, there is hope. For them, these are just the way to life.
A truly inner person must have a calm heart, a gentle heart, and a intelligent mind. I have experienced violent storms, experienced alpine valleys, and have seen life. I hope that on the road of life, no matter what kind of situation, we can be full of wisdom and courage, and become a powerful person.