Today it’s all about boobs. Big boobs. Small boobs. Black boobs. White boobs. I have experienced quite a few things as a woman, a mother and a feminist.
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What comes to your mind when you think about boobs? The answer to this question might depend on whether you are male or female. Also maybe on your sexual orientation.
You might like boobs dressed in a sexy bra. Or naked? You might like the way they feel, soft and warm. You may like your own boobs, or dislike them. Like to show or hide them.
But no matter what your opinion is, you will most likely agree that your thoughts are sexually related.
Next question: who of you thought about boobs as of the natural way to feed a baby. A woman nursing her child. Because this, although nowadays the focus on what it is meant for has changed, is what they are good for.
Throughout evolution humans have lost parts of their body as they don’t come in very useful anymore. For example hair. But we didn’t lose our boobs since after all we are still mammals.
Don’t get me wrong at this point. I am not saying that nursing is the only thing boobs should be used for. But I think that both aspects should be equally accepted.
Here is what I have experienced:
Multiple times on different locations people told me to stop breastfeeding my baby. Some people said it right into my face, others mumbled ‚disgusting‘ as they walked by.
A friend of mine told me a story I couldn’t believe it was true. She met a friend at a restaurant. The other woman had a baby too but fed it with a bottle. At one point the babies were hungry so my friend started to nurse her baby while her friend hold her baby on her arm feeding it with a bottle. The waiter came to my friend and told her to either nurse the baby at the restroom or leave the restaurant.
Why is it ok to have commercials and advertising posters almost everywhere showing barely dressed women, while it is not ok to see a little bit of the boob while a mother is nursing a child?
I was 23 years old as I gave birth to my girl. I was young and not very confident as a mother. Also very insecure about my body and how it had changed throughout pregnancy and after labour. I did not have the strength to stand up to myself.
With this post I want to encourage mothers no matter what age and what heritage to breastfeed their babies (if they want to breastfeed at all) in public and care less about people and their opinion. When your baby is hungry it has a right to be fed. And I want to encourage the ones of you who don’t have a baby or don’t nurse to defend a nursing mother when you see her being insulted.
I‘d love to read your opinion about my post. Thanks for reading.
Increasingly nursing mothers in Singapore discreetly breastfeed their babies in public. Hardly anyone will make any comments & people will give mother and child the peace and privacy that they deserve.
@acdevan thank you for your comment. I am happy to hear it is like this in Singapore and wished it was a bit more like that in Germany too. Because that’s how it should be!
I'm really surprised to hear that this is the case in Germany! My wife is German. Is this the case in some communities or cities?
I live in the South of Germany and it was really bad 4 years ago I had a lot of people insulting me. I am happy to hear and I truly hope that my experiences are probably not what the majority of mothers experience.
@kateandbabes
Salute to my brave mother!
I grew up feeding on my mother's milk, so did all my 5 other siblings. We are all two years apart in our ages. Can you imagine the amount of sacrifices our mother made to raise us. My heart warms up with amazing feeling every time I sight a mom breast feeding her child. ;)
Thank you for your lovely words. As a mother of two I can only try to imagine the sacrifices your mother made. But from the point of view as a mother I see it this way: there is nothing like the love of a mother. Love is a mothers fuel. And the love multiplies with every child.
Haha! I love this i was like, wait what?- capn gp
Haha! I tried to get everyone’s attention on this topic. I thought this was legit :)
Great article, @auminda. Today, many things are perceived differently by different 'groups' of people.
I will be coming back here, nice content.
All the best, @keyss.
Thank you so much @keyss :)