Learn to distance yourself from people who make you feel like you're hard to love and surround yourself with people who actually care. Those who make you feel valued, appreciated, and loved are the ones that are deserving of your efforts.
Wanna what because of loyalty to many person doesn't know why they doesn't distance ther selves on it it seems too hard in everyday living but you doesn't see the effort he or she made just to keep the family he made may had deference in arguments but still he or she wants secure he or her family safe in anything else.