Horses and Marraige

in #thealliance5 years ago (edited)

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I am a city boy. Born and raised in New York City. I met this woman and decided to move out to her family farm in PA. She had always told me how much she loved horses and wanted to have one. We built a barn and a couple of pastures and I bought her two horses for her birthday.

Well, I thought I was good. You know a hero. I bought my wife a horse. Now I could go back to my crypto, reading, writing, blogging etc.. She was passionate about horses. Me? Not so much.,

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So now my wife has horses and no horse friends. I am not a hero. Even though I got here some chickens. I am not too passionate about the chickens either. She loves them. They all have names.. BTW We don't eat our pets, especially if they have names.

I guess I am going to go out and shovel horse poop with my wife. Because I love her

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Awwweeee that's miserably sweet though. You shovel that poop. So what do you like to do??? I mean youve got freaking horses man, take off on them. Have fun. Live life and if its not the life that you completely want, tell her. Then maybe theres room for compromise. The love is there, so tell her you want a studio, man cave crypto work barn. Like try to find some joy of your own out there too so you can work together, two by two. It can be hard, relationships when things seem unbalanced. Then things like resentment and unappreciation of one another can happen. Find a balance so that while you're poop scouping, you know your fun is just around the corner too. Lolol.
Compromise, communication and I think you can be a little more happier. I know you may not care about youre happiness because You love your wife and you want her happy but in the end if you're not happy you won't be able to give her that period so try to find something there on the farm just for you that you life even if it's a man cave crypto studio/or your equivalent of happy. Hope the advice helps.

Wow. You actually got what I was saying... I will take your advice. I need to do some things for me.. Its actually not being selfish.... I used to be real selfish in my relationships... I feel bad about that and I am making my ammends.... Seems I have gone too far the other way... Thanks for the reply. Btw I am still pretty sure I would rather ride a motorcycle than a horse... Who knows? More will be revealed

Hey ive got plenty of desert rides out in the desert, but ive had them on horses too. They are both beautiful. One you can run out of gas. One can be your way home, a best friend or a way to find a new hobby. Get deep into property. Metel detect. Not for money, maybe history. Life is about finding balance. As long as you guys help find each other and support each others wants and dreams, nothing is impossible. Even a motorcycle. Just remember compromise but it cant hapoen without truth or communication. So I do believe you'll find your happy medium. Youll see.