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Learn the 5 issues that are often experienced by this newlyweds as your provision and partner in the future.
Wedding is a great transition in life. Every transition must have its own challenges. The challenge can be passed easily if the couple finds the right way.
So, before you decide to get married and build a household with someone, learn the 5 issues that are often experienced by this newlyweds as well as you and your partner in the future.
Pre-wedding syndrome?
Several days and weeks after the wedding, not a few newlyweds who experience wedding withdrawal and feel bored even sad.
"The couple (the bride and groom) will spend months preparing for her marriage. During the singles party, new receptions and moons, you and your spouse (husband / wife) will experience a transition period that must be passed from day to day. Be sure to always various (tell) small things even trivial to your partner, every day. Make it small (trivial) as something fun to do by you and your partner, "said Dr. Howard Forman, an assistant professor at the Albert Einstein College of Medicine.
Me time reduced after marriage?
"Your partner is not just your husband or wife, they are also your good friends. Are not you happy to talk about your good friends? Think of your partner as a good friend who can appreciate your decision. Although married, you also have to be able to set the time for the couple and yourself. It would be much better if the couple understands and supports you to be able to enjoy time alone, "said Forman.
Family is no longer a priority?
Marrying not only unites you and your partner, but also unites many heads (family). There will be times when your family members and your spouse are unhappy with the decision you make.
"Spending a weekend or vacation will be a big problem after marriage. The reason, there are many ideas from many heads that must be accommodated. Do not waste your time arguing with your spouse, make sure you and your partner pick up the votes. Support each other's decisions to strengthen your bonds and your spouse. Other families may feel disappointed, but the disappointment is temporary, unlike the support you give to the couple, the support will show commitment to each other, "continued Forman.
Intimate relationships do not match expectations?
"Before marriage, intercourse feels more passionate. After marriage, the goal is to produce offspring. Do not make the burden, intercourse should be enjoyed by you and your partner. Make a child (offspring) as a motivation for sexual arousal remains smoldering, "said Forman.
Hurt by criticism?
The situation is quite stressful when your partner feels that you are criticizing him and you feel not doing it.
"You may not intend to criticize but point out the opposite to the couple. If you intend to give feedback, say in a better way, instead of criticizing emotionally or angrily. If you do not intend to criticize but your partner feels the same way, think again, whether the way of delivery is not right, whether your tone of voice that makes your partner feel that way. After knowing the reason, try to communicate with more empathy.
Good read.
I've been part of wedding planning for over 16 years. I have DJ'd over 600 weddings in my time.
There needs to be a lot more communication pre-wedding for a lot of couples out there.
Thanks...
Tips yg sangat bagus, bisa menjadi bahan referensi saya. Thanks....