Can our conversation skills be improve? Of course.
Here are the list of my top 10 Mistakes during a conversation, :
Not listening
The weakness I've got here was, I became no differences among the dominant people in terms of lestening. Eagerly waiting for my turn to talk, putting my ego on hold, and not listening to what actually people are saying.
But when I start to really listen, I've picked up on loads of potential paths in the conversation. I avoid yes or no type of questions as they will not give me much information. If someone say they start blogging with Steemit, I can for instance ask:
-How often did you write a blog?
-What do you like most about Steemit?
-What did you get there aside from rewards?
The person then delve deeper into the subject giving me more information to work with and more paths for me choose from.
Asking too many questions
I have observed that if many questions were ask, the conversation will be feel like a bit of an interrogation and more like you don’t have that much too contribute. My alternative is to mix statements with Questions. Continuing the above conveersation you could skip lots of question and say:
-Yeah, it’s great to be part of Steemit Community. I like how the Whales out there interact to my post.
-Nice. We have signed up with friend’s just last month and I guess I'm almost near to success. The Whales upvote were really inspiring.
The conversation will then flow on from there. And you can discuss the importance of Whale's upvote, the advantages/disadvantages of nich chossen or your favourite Steemian.
Tightening up
When I'm in a conversation with someone I just meet or when the usual few topics were exhausted, an awkward silence or mood appeared. Or I just became nervous not knowing exactly why.
If I'm running out of things to say, I can always start talking about the current news. It’s also good to stay updated on current water cooler-topics. Like what happened on the latest episode of Train To Busan.
Poor delivery
The most important things in a conversation is not what you say, but how you say it. If you change these habits you can make a big difference since your voice and body language is a vital part of communication. Some things I think about:
-Slowing down. It is much easier for them to listen and for me to actually get what am I saying across to them.
-Speaking up. Don't be afraid to say what you want as loud as you need.
-Speaking clearly. Don’t mumble.
-Speak with emotion.
-Using pauses.
-Learn a bit about improving your body language.
Hogging the spot-light
Honestly, I have this guilt even until today. Everyone involved should get their time in the spotlight. Never interrupt when someone are telling some anecdote or their view on what you are discussing to divert the attention back to yourself. Don’t hijack their story about skiing before it’s finished to share your best skiing-anecdote. Find a balance between listening and talking.
Having to be right)
Arguing and having to being right about every topic is a must to be avoided. A conversation is not all the time a discussion. It’s a more of a way to keep a good mood going. It's not anymore impressive if you “win” every conversation. Just sit back instead, help keep the good feelings going and relax.
Talking about a weird or negative topic
If I'm just getting to know some people I want to avoid some topics. Talking about my bad health or relationships, my crappy job or boss, serial killers, technical lingo that they may never understand are topics to steer clear from. You might also want to save religion and politics for conversations with your friends.
Being boring
Always be prepared to drop a subject when you start to bore people Or when everyone is getting bored and the topic is starting to run out of steam. Don’t prattle on about your new car for 10 minutes oblivious to your surroundings.
Not reciprocating
If someone shares an experience, open up too and share one of your experiences. Say what you think, share how you feel. If someone is investing in the conversation they’d like you to invest too. Don’t just stand there nodding and answer with short sentences.
Not contributing much
I sometimes feel that I don’t have much to contribute to a conversation. But I tried anyway. We should really listen and be interested in what the others are saying. Ask questions. Make relating statements.
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Interesting thoughts