There are active laws on the books in 47 states defending a person's right to kill a trans person if they are startled by the fact that they are trans during sex.
has a one in twelve chance of being murdered before they turn forty to calm down ...
? is that greater risk of being murdered for TRANS people- because more of them are SEX workers, than the population in general. Because ALL SEX WORKERS have a greater chance of being murdered?
(I am in no way insinuating you are a sec worker - or that all trans-women are sex workers- but I have found a disproportionate number of trans- women are)
? are there? is there a reference source, what states are they?
? if two people are going to be so intimate as to have, don't both people have a right to know who they are having sex with? And shouldn't a person- KNOW their going to bed with before hand?
I have experienced actual combat in my time in the military and I can tell you the stress of being in the public eye for the majority of the day as a trans women is very similar to the stress of being on patrol. Always on edge, ever vigilant of attack, verbal or physical.
I have no doubt it is stressful for you. So you're mostly in a state of FIGHT or FLIGHT- besides the obvious TOLL that must take on you- IS IT NOT POSSIBLE- that also makes you Hyper-sensitive & would make one in general- more prone to BLOW things Out Of Proportion?
All of the things you are suggesting are in fact possible.
They are not born out by the data collected, so they are irrelevant to this particular conversation, but I grant that in a theoretical way they are possible.