I heard that love has four stages, which part are you?
A psychologist once wrote that a mature relationship that can be called true love must go through four stages and will be together forever.
That is: coexistence, anti-dependence, doubt, symbiosis
The conversion between the needs is easy for people.
The first stage: coexistence.
This is a period of love,
Whenever and wherever you want, you can always get tired.
The second stage: anti-dependency.
One side wants to spend more time doing what she wants to do,
At this time, the other party will feel left out.
Always because of a small matter to care about and count.
The third stage: doubt.
This is a continuation of the second phase.
Ask for more independent time
Always feel bad about myself
I didn't love myself before.
The fourth stage: symbiosis.
At this time, the new way of getting along is shaped.
You have become the closest person.
Together, you support each other and create your own life.
You will not be tied to each other, but will grow up with each other.
He is like your loved one.
but,
Many people can't pass the second or third stage.
Choose to break up.
In fact, as long as a lot of things are communicated, it will be fine.
But thinking too much and being willful is unavoidable.
How difficult it is to meet the only one in the world,
Can you not give up?
Did you discover it?
You have nothing in common,
The appearance is not the same,
The character is also in the north and south.
But love and then together.
day to day,
Year after year,
You will be surprised that your eyes are a bit like his eyes.
His smile is a bit like your smile.
The pace of your walking has become similar.
The tone of your speech is getting more and more like it.
You love to drink the same drink.
Your mantra has become the same.
You can always guess what the other person's next sentence is.
It turns out that we will become the ones we love.
You unconsciously let him change his bad habit of frowning.
This change may not even be noticed by himself.
He unknowingly makes you become more and more sloppy.
You almost can't recognize yourself.
Will gradually become the ideal person of the other party without knowing it.
This change is definitely not deliberate.
The longer the two get along, the closer the temperament is.
one day,
You are surprised to find that
How tacit understanding are you like this.
Perhaps I will never encounter such feelings again.
When I deeply love someone,
You really will lose yourself a little bit.
But why do you still feel happy?
Probably because you lost while you lost,
You earned his temperament and his smile.
How difficult it is to meet the only one in the world,
Can you not give up?
Can you keep going?
Please don't say the next life,
I am afraid that I will not meet you again in my next life.
So in this life, let us go together.