Oh gosh Jennifer- it's really tough isn't it? I think that for you, as a parent, you're possibly able to see the much larger, longer-term picture than your son is... being a teenager is all about the immediate. What is happenning now. What will happen tomorrow. What will my life look like next week and next term... not so much, how will this affect me in several years' time.
I really hope that you can get it decided to that he is happy, and comfortable where he is- after all, he still has several years to go.
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Yes, you are right. It is very difficult for him to see the big picture and we have to guide him with that. I think it will be interesting to see if his friend gets in or not. We should find that out today.
I think I have made up my mind what is best, and I think his dad agrees, we almost need him to come to the same conclusion himself so he owns it!
Yes- that is so important that he owns the decision otherwise he may end up rebelling against whatever is decided for the next 3 years!