My daughter and her husband recently entered the foster care system with the hope of adopting. They already have 4 kids ages 6-13, and they chose only to accept kids younger than their own.
Currently they have two siblings but will not be able to adopt them because the father will be gaining custody in less than a year. I am concerned about the impact this will have on both my grand children and the foster children themselves especially since they are so young. Although I have tried to distance myself somewhat iI know my own heart will break as well.
I understand their reasons for being a part of the foster care system and God knows there are so many kids out there who could benefit from the love and stability they can offer but I wish there was abetter way.
Thank you for being vulnerable enough to share your story and insights. I look forward to hearing more about how we can give power and support back to families. Wonderful movement and I support it wholeheartedly.
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In my view, re-building a multi-generational family is the way to go. The grandparents should have a huge role in raising the children as parents are too young, naive and inexperienced to tackle that most pivotal roll. But to do that requires that we rebuild the family, which was destroyed by the state and it's corporate empire. When we do that, then everyone has the support they need to raise children and look after the elders as well. Everyone has a role to play and the children learn what it takes to be a contributing member of that family unit, the parents learn from the elders and have support through that whole process. The elders in turn share their years of knowledge, experience and wisdom for the benefit of the younger generations to make sure it is passed on before they go.
My thoughts and prayers go out to your entire family as you all start on this journey with the state. May Creator bless you all. Thank you so much for sharing that with us all. Takes a lot of courage and I recognize and appreciate that very much.
Inhave heard the term multigenerational family but never quite understood exactly what that meant. So many grandparents today are either burdened by trying to make a living or focusing on enjoying their new freedom to really live life and find themselves. Most likely because they didn’t have the support they needed from their parents when they were raising kids.
I’m struggling right now to find my role as a grandmother without overstepping. Of course the Western culture of independence makes this even harder. Indon’t just want to be used for them to dump their kids on me but I do want to focus on what will help them be better parents and develop a loving and respectful relationship with my grand kids.
I am going to look through your posts for more help in this area but if you have any specific resources on how to build a multi-generational family please let me know.
I have a lot of posts about being independent, etc but the post you may be interested in the most is one that I wrote a few months back.
https://steemit.com/ungrip/@wwf/rebuilding-the-multi-generational-family-and-clan-network
Feel free to look through the blog to see if you can find other things that interest you as well. I can appreciate how you are feeling. I hope this helps. Peace to you.