At no point did I justify or condone haejins behavior. That is a classic misdirection.
And be careful using the word rape...I know you feel strongly about this topic but comparing it to rape is degrading to those who were actually raped. If any of your family members went through that, especially as children, you might want to get their feelings on it.
They are not even in the same ballpark.
I don't find it degrading having been raped - my feelings