I can relate to your story just as you were able to relate to mine. I hope this is helping you deal with the trauma that resulted from your dad's desire to follow a specific model in his life. If only life came with a manual that we could read before we got here so that our own ignorance or nativity did not cause so many problems. I can imagine the difficulties that the kids went through and I pray that they were all able to work through their demons and live a healthy life. I pray they did not perish or swirl inwards.
Thank you for sharing your story. I value that very much and appreciate that I am not alone in this experience. Knowing that others have similar experiences is comforting. Peace to you.