Thank you for writing that my dear brother. Please know that I don't blame my parents. They did the best they could with what they knew at the time. They were young and just wanted to help kids out. Now that I am an adult, I've accepted full responsibility for what happened to me and I've done the healing as a result. But you're right in that we often do things without fully comprehending the full scope of what it means to our kids. I know that there are some things that I did years ago that my boys still struggle with. I pray that they find a way to heal and forgive as my own ignorance contributed to some of the problems. I've had to work at forgiving myself too!
What I have learned is that it is not possible for us to know how our actions or inaction has impacted other people unless they have the courage to speak up and tell us. Kids have a difficult time doing that. When I was young, I did not feel like I had the voice to speak up, so I rarely did. As parents, teachers, mentors or elders, it is our job to ensure the lines of communication is open so that we really do know how students or kids are feeling as a result of any encounter we may have.
Perhaps that would open up the topic of sexual abuse, molestation, etc as well as the #metoo movement tried to do a few months back.
My dear friend, may we work together to make the changes in our lives and to help others find the courage to speak up and say no to the violence we all have endured in our lives. It is not just the state sponsored violence but all violence is what I am confronting with my work. Peace to you my friend and thank you VERY much for sharing your thought and feelings about what you read here and more importantly, what it means to you and the changes you are making as a result. We do have influence and it shows with exchanges just like this one!
May Creator bless you as well my friend.
This is actually something in which we as Mentor and Teacher feel shy to discuss about Sex education, Molestation and many other sensitive topics with kids but these topics must be addressed to guide them. So that they don't get depressed as you mentioned in one of your previous blogs about Molestation.
At school and in family these topics should be discussed to educate the innocent creatures of the lord, Kids. I am really touched by reading your story my friend and after reading this comment in which you mentioned that your sons got a bit oppressiveness due to your foolishness... this type of attitude of your show that how humble and beautiful person by heart <3 <3
I often say this to compliment you that My Words are so low to write in your honor My Guide, My Mentor, My Friend, My Brother @wwf <3 <3
Thank you. I am honoured and humbled by your words. <3