Problems are created which then are impossible to solve. Your example shows this very well (the one with the library). The moment someone brings up a problem and presents this problem to two others as "to be solved" and these two fall for the idea that this is a problem to be solved, they have already lost.
No one is allowed to come to me and say I have a problem when I don't have a problem at all. As much as this person insists that I must take the problem, I refuse.
I have had such moments when others wanted to talk to me about a problem that was not mine, but their own, but they wanted to make it mine at all costs. A real impertinence.