I know you guys want to hear all about how NuBits is imploding but I'm going to save that for tomorrow. I'm going to tell another gold digger story in the mean time since some women like to use our balls as a speed bag. This happened a while back but it is still very relevant and important information if you don't want to get financially abused.
I had matched with this chick on Tinder and unfortunately she was going away for a long weekend just as it looked like we were going to hang out. We kept the texting up and she was real responsive the whole time she was gone and wanting to hang out right when she got back on a Monday. RED ALERT, RED ALERT, RED ALERT!!! She started suggesting these more pricey places to meet up for this first time. And we aren't talking like it was super upscale but the kind of place where if you aren't careful you could end up with a $140 bill between drinks and food. YEAH .....that is expensive for my cheap skate self. You don't want to spend money like that meeting a girl for the first time..... trust me guys.... otherwise your balls aren't going to just be a speed bag. She will be doing round houses and spinning back fists on them as well.
Luckily after the trip she said that she put herself on a juice cleanse because she was eating too much Mexican food on the trip. AKA.... She felt BLOATED as Fuck.... AKA..... She thinks she is fat..... (psst.... every girl thinks they are fat). Ok moving on.
So I indirectly got out of going to the one restaurant and we ended going to another place that wasn't going to be that expensive and she was already saying she was just going to order water. Well she ended up getting a salad so I knew I was safe. THEN...... Red Alert....Red Alert....Red Alert! She ends up bring up what I was wearing. I was just wearing jeans, a T-Shirt, and running shoes. Just regular stuff for meeting up with this girl for the first time at a sports bar / family restaurant type place. I thought it was odd but she said something to the effect of, "Hahahah, it's like you are ready to go running." I just said something like, "Gotta be prepared." And then just went on with the conversation.
She Kept Wanting To Go Somewhere Fancy
The next day she kept talking through text about getting dressed up and going somewhere nice. I said I didn't really dress up. Now guys.....if this was some little one on one dress up party where we were going to dress down real fast and start wr-A-stling around on the bed that is different but this was going to be a full blown dress up and get financially abused scenario. BUT Maybe AFTER dinner....... NOOOOO. No guys NOOO. If you can't cheap skate your way through and can't maintain cruise control on your jokes and wicked smarts it isn't going to happen anyways.
Next Date ..... Her Place
I effectively squirmed my way out of going to some place fancy and made it to the weekend. We were going to go on a hike and then we were going to meet up for frozen yogurt and then it turned into me just coming over to her place and playing Mario Kart on the Nintendo Switch. Perfect situation and I totally dominated because all my previous Mario Kart experience from past platforms transferred forward once I got used to the controller that is made for a baby's hands.
I was wearing the same running shoes, jeans, a t-shirt with a hooded sweatshirt over it. Traditional Mario Kart attire. She had on Yoga pants, and a tight t-shirt with no bra on under it. YUP
She was also cuddling with me and shoving me playfully in between Mario Kart races so it was going well.
Of course I moved in for a kiss and she would only let me kiss her on the cheek. I was like WHOA.... "You really are Hispanic!" We had joked about Mexican American girls playing super hard to get previously so it was a little bit of a joke but guys if you don't know these Mexican American girls play so hard to get it can be unreal. YEAH they are hot and then they tease and tease..... finely most guys give up and they end up getting back together with their junior high boyfriend who they teased for years already.
Overall the night went well even though she was playing hard to get. The next day we were still texting a lot and again she kept bringing up fancy restaurants. She just wouldn't quit with it. I sort of met in the middle in a round about way. I said we should go to Sushi Garden. Sushi Garden is pretty good but you certainly can just be wearing whatever and they have $21 all you can eat Sushi so when I go in there I'm on a mission to eat enough to last me 3 days. They practically have to roll me out of there after I'm done eating.
Conversation was going good and then she brought up my shoes again. Of course I wore the same running shoes. That is what I wear. I asked her why she was trippin out about it and pointed out 3/4ths of the other people who were just dressed casually. She wasn't even dressed up super nice.
What it really came down to is she for some reason wanted to go to really fancy restaurants and be all dressed up. I don't know if we should blame Disney or Grays Anatomy or Lifetime channel or something else a girl would watch along the way. She was super fixated on that. Besides that little thing about the shoes again the date went pretty good. Then later that night in text she said,
"I don't like the way you dress."
She never could give a straight answer of how I was supposed to dress. I thought it was the strangest thing. We never hung out again after that and from time to time she will text me asking me how everything is going. I don't try to hang out with her because it will just end up the same where she really wants to go out to somewhere fancy.
I fully expect her to get end up with a beta male who she can use their balls and a speed bag and dress them up like a Ken Doll on their dime and then after a couple of kids with this guy she isn't attracted to she will get a divorce and then be a hot Mexican MILF-a-saurus REX on the prowl for a young stud 10 years younger than her. Trust me guys.... this is very common.
Trying to keep up appearances won't last long. Let these women see you at your worst. Let them know you took some shots of Vodka behind a dumpster to save money on drinks when going out. Let them know you slept in a chair all summer one year for a summer internship. Let them know you got your basketball shoes at Ross' Dress For Less for $23.
Have you guys seen a recently divorced MILF-a-saurus REX in the wild before?
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Have you heard about the MGTOW movement, if not it might be worth looking up for reference.
Hahhaha. That is hilarious.
"I do not think you can name many great inventions that have been made by married men." Tesla
Hahah, Funny stuff.
Well, sounds like you got involved with a nag-a-saurus.
I doubt she really cared about the shoes, she just wanted you to change one thing for her. Because if you cave once, you will cave again.
Unfortunately its a hind brain thing for most women.
It is an itch they need to scratch.
And no one ever teaches women that nagging a man is not only counter productive, it is destroying their relationship.
Yeah....and I didn't want to break down and be pretending to be something I wasn't or wearing uncomfortable shoes for no reason.
I also hate it when people say, "You need to do...." I'm like .... I don't NEED to do anything. I have had girls try to say that to me in an attempt to change my cheap skate ways. lol
I couldn't agree more about the idea to let women see you at your worst appearance because if they love you in that way then you will be more special to them in a tie and suit things.
Yeah and plus just trying to change people for no reason doesn't make any sense either.
I enjoyed reading through every lines.. @brianphobos you are the man, I love what you did in not letting her get her way into your pocket through the fancy restaurant that she had always talked about... If she does not like your shoes or the way your dress and she truly does care for you, she would have tried something like giving you a surprise gift of a type of shoe she likes and maybe that will lure you into having another taste of design but she didn't.
If you had considered changing your shoes because of her, what next? She will come into your home and tell you she does not like this and does not like that and you go about turning into something you truly are not..
I will love to always follow the step you made in letting her go and I pray deep in my heart that I can hangout with a woman that I will love and also she will TRULY love me too.. I don't want anything from her but just her love. So sad I haven't found any of such yet.
It is a slippery slope for sure. Just constantly trying to buy stuff to keep up with what she wants. No thanks. Hahah
Is it the modern day has make more material girl?
It is hard telling to be honest because there are stories from World War II where women would wait at the docs for the sailors to get home to find a husband. I don't know how true it is but I have also heard that some women specifically try to get with military guys because they make pretty decent money and if they get killed there is like a $250,000 or $500,000 life insurance policy or something pretty big. Sounds crazy for sure.
There must be some truth. of course not everyone is like that.
Yeah.... there are a lot of cool girls around who aren't into the money.
Thanks brother. yeah I totally get you, man. Don't fork out the dough the first date or even the first few dates, Some of these women want freebies. And not cheap freebies. She sounded like one.
But yeah, I met a Mexican Women one time in downtown Nashville back nearly 13 years ago. A place on Broadway called The Stage. A country hony tonk and world famous.I was by myself sitting at a table. I saw her come in with some girlfriend.
Eventually she came over to ask me to dance. Well long story short , two hours later she and I ended up in my car for like 4 hours rest of the night in the parking lot where she and her GF were staying at. The sun started coming up and bums were walking by my car. Our windows were all foggy and we just really didn't care if they could see us lol.
Took us awhile to find her clothes and mine too, as they were all strewn around the car .
9 months later she moved up from San Antonio and we moved in together in apt. in Nashville. Married 8 months later on the Beach in Maui. Then two years later had two kids.
Been happily married since then.
But you're right about Mexican American women. She often reminds me that I won the "Lotto" when I found her because most "senoritas" like her are very conservative when it comes to intimacy.
She was not shy whatsoever lol
i've had similar experiences so I can definitely appreciate what you are saying. Its all about keeping up appearances and its how woman show domination over others, going to fancy places and you spending money they don't have on overpriced places so they can capture every magical inch on it for Instagram and have people fawn over the lifestyle they live
Like you said there are plenty of guys willing to play the sucker and treat her to what she wants so its no loss to you or her, just a mismatch in ideals and priorities
As I was reading through the post I was waiting for you to mention her saying she needed money. From my experience with girls of this nature if you're around them long enough it always comes down to something where they need money but it's not the borrowing kind more the give me kind with no obligations.
Glad you saw through it and came out of it a richer man lol
Lol. Wtf. FROM a hetero (if that matters) female perspective i will say I've never cared about the things this girl is obsessing over. Sounds pretty lame and there's no way I'd deal with my date acting like that.
Obviously if you're not even showered or whatever with fresh food stains on your hoodie that's one thing.
People are strange. What a bitch.
Lmao....
@brainphobos I think most of this 'soap opera' are making things worst for men cus the make women believe they shouldn't be treated the way the way the see on TV. Over here in my country, TELEMONDO is taking over and ladies just wanna be treated like what the see on screen....
Am not saying it's bad to give a lady some treat once in a while or go someplace fancy. But hey!! If she thinks I work my ass out to get paid every month, just to burn my wages on some fancy outing or dinner sit-out with her... Then someone better wakes her up from her sleep cus she's dreaming.....
LoL
Man I see the dating seen has not changed one bit, been out of commission for 6 years now haha. I'm glad my wife is not like this at all and as a matter of fact, she would probably want me to take a few shots of vodka behind the dumpster to save money on our bill 😂😂. Very engaging post and dude those pictures had me rolling lol. But on a serious note if that is all she was thinking about then she is super shallow. She can't make someone conform to who she wants them to be, she has to find them already like that.
Better than "I didn't know you were super poor" so said a girl who didn't like about my jokes about going Domino's on a first date.
Ballin' on a budget. Dang greedy bitches
You gotta take a lady like this somewhere with class. Like the dumpster behind McDonalds. Show her something special.
you represent different life .thanks a lot for sharing