Very interesting. I'm 30 and have been together with my partner for almost 10 years and we're very happy together. People can really assume that now would be the time for kids for us. And sometimes this feeling jumps on me, that if I don't make a move in the coming few years that then some kind of opportunity will be lost. When that happens, it's often some kind of fear of missing out and society's pressure of doing things a certain way that play their part. Most of the times, I am so happy and content in life. I don't feel kids would make a difference in bringing more fulfilment. I work with kids, and I love them and enjoy spending time around them. I just don't feel the urge to getting any of them for myself, because I've also seen the huge huge impact they have on a parent's life. It's really a choice we're free to make, and I also plan to follow my own path in the matter. It's nice to hear from others who've done the same, once in a while. Reminding us all that all opportunities are open :). Thanks for your beautiful and open writing!
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Thank you.
I'm 44 now so should I have some sudden change of heart I have age to consider. But when I was your age, I had the same thing. Some ticking clock but it wasn't MY clock. People reminding me that the years are going by and I'm running out of time. There's a preconceived life plan out there. Find a partner, fall in love, have baby. I think the definition of "family" is changing every day. We accept same sex marriages as family. There's still a TON of progress that needs to happen there, but what I'm saying is we're moving in that direction. Yet we still haven't evolved passed the fact that family = kids.
Just do you and when the time is right and you feel it's something you want, go for it. But do it just because it's "what people do".
Congratulations on 10 years together. That's amazing.