As a mom to 5 kids (and who ALWAYS wanted kids of my own for as long as I can remember), I find myself surrounded by friends who don't have and never wanted kids. I was shocked the first time I hear that people gave them a hard time and called them selfish for NOT wanting children, because I heard often that I was selfish for wanting children. That I would regret it because I would want a career "instead". I think people just like judging and criticizing us as women, especially as young women.
I admire you for knowing yourself so well and being so strong in just clarifying your wants and needs. This is an awesome post. Thank you for sharing your experiences.
What @byn said!
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Seriously, this is an awesome post, and one I wish my mother could read (but there's NO way I'm letting her near Steemit - bad enough she reads my WP blog and freaks out over stuff... LOL!). Our youngest (about to turn 18) has said for a number of years that she doesn't think she wants kids when she grows up. My mom keeps trying to talk her out of it, and I'm like, "if she was excited to start a family, you'd be all for it. Leave her alone - if she doesn't want babies, she shouldn't have babies just because you're making her feel bad. Besides, if anyone is going to make her feel bad, it should be her parents. LOL!"
I'm hoping some day this will be a non-issue ("you have kids/don't have kids? Cool.") but I'm not holding my breath. However, thanks for adding your voice to the chorus to the people trying to drown out the noise from people who ass-ume. 😊
Oh my mother is the leader of the pack when it comes to people nagging or judging my choice. Which is odd because she fully supports every single thing I do regardless of her personal feelings. Except this issue. LOL.
Don't it figure? LOL! 😜
Thank you @byn
I think for so long motherhood is what defines women. And the world is just really slow to catch up and redefine “woman”.
Absolutely. That is so true!