Thank you for writing this down. I can understand and appreciate ALL you have written and I strongly believe not enough women on the ‘not really want/need to be a mother’ speak about it which keeps the societal belief all women need to become a mother at some point (or else something MUST be wrong with them) in tact. I just applaud you for being you and having children is not a factor in that at all<3
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I recently did a project with 30 women of 30 years old - 28 didn’t have/knew if they wanted children. They unanimously felt however society was asking them why they still were not mothers.
I do think, generally speaking, people are becoming mothers at a later age. Which is probably a good thing. But yes, there is this underlying feeling that something is wrong with me. That I have a cold heart, or some medical reason behind it. Truth is, i just don’t feel it
I understand. I have three great female friends: two don’t want children for various reasons, one has passed the age and will also never be a mother. Why did I pick three non-mothers as my friends? ;-)
At this point in my life I can imagine myself being a mother but also really never be a mother. I’m happy not having too many responsibilites. My boyfriend understands but also feels it’s ‘hard’ that I make him think so hard about something he always though would ‘just’ happen at some point in his life. I understand that too - there’s comfort in just following ‘known paths’. Well, as you can see I’m in the middle of it all. Time and wisdom will tell ;-)