As someone who is overweight, let me clarify something. Most overweight people I know spend copious amounts of time obsessing over the fact that they are overweight. They often try time and time again to adopt a healthier lifestyle, but ultimately fail for a number of reasons you can't possibly begin to understand. I began to gain weight as a child. I also moved from abusive home to abusive home and had a lot of psychological trauma. I was only recently diagnosed with bipolar disorder, PTSD, and anxiety, all of which went untreated during my teens and early 20s, while I was gaining most of my weight. Part of my PTSD involves being shamed for eating, even healthy foods, by stepfathers growing up, and by fellow students' bullying. I can't even shop in the produce section without feeling judged. I am going to the gym and swimming and despite the obvious effort I am making, I still feel the judgmental eyes on me. This is the effect you will often have on an overweight person if you use humiliation to try to motivate them. A more effective method would be to try to understand why they behave the way they do, what triggers them to do the things they do, and what motivates them as individuals to make a change. It isn't just as simple as counting calories and exercising. A lot of overweight people have mental and emotional baggage they have to wage war against every day of their lives. And to be honest, this post just seems like your way of justifying being a bully, not truly to be helpful. If you ARE sincere, maybe you will take my advice.
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