yes, the lover and the hater are not very much apart from each other. People hate/oppose those people the most they find the greatest familiarities/overlaps with, is what I observe :) If you make the full circle, you end up with love.
It's a long path to be able to think of it as just labels. And not to dismiss them but to accept that we have, need and use them. But then to let go of them.
I am grateful that you say that you "try" to be aware that you are beyond labels and not that you already live by it. Is it or was it not a very strange, but at the same time funny experience to find that out?
Yes, judgements are solidified and sometimes they need to be, I think. Is it rare? I guess so. Let us work at this score :)
Oh yeah, true, too much conflict is like "Uargh!!" and to little like "yawn..."