Yes, it's important to always remember to go easy on others, because like you said, this is what pretty much all of us have been told since we were born. That our only value is in what kind of career we end up in and how much the world will respect it, and how much it pays.
Kind of like they teach us "you can do anything you want, if only you try hard enough." Only God can do anything, in any circumstances. The rest of us are going to have to deal with the reality. Not become depressed and throw the towel in... but learn that everyone's circumstances are different, and we don't get other people's. We have to figure out how to make the best of our own, do what we CAN do, and then do our best to make peace with the things we really can't change. But again, as a result of the lies the world beats into our heads from the cradle, people will attack those who are down in life for "not doing enough" even if there is literally nothing they can do.
Lots of the things the world has taught us are toxic lies. Sad thing is, they have real consequences when we fall for them. They hurt us and those around us.
You can only master the reality in which you live, as much as it really is possible for you, when you know the TRUTH about that reality. Operating on lies generally leads to disaster, whether great or small.
Learning to notice the beauty, the little things in life, and to appreciate them deeply, sometimes goes a long way in learning to see that truth. It's not usually as dark as we tend to think it is, when we're blind to all life's blessings!