Sometimes nothing is enough.
You've probably been there. I've been there. Some people are just toxic. They have somehow banned themselves from achieving true happiness by embracing the misery of whining about anything and everything all day long. Oh, it's never their fault! It's everybody else's. It's always everybody else's fault. They're just the tortured victims of their own life that have been suffering all along and thus have every right to act like total jerks who just can't show respect or feel gratitude.
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These people tend to forget that loyalty is a privilege and not a right. So they take for granted whatever you might do for them and therefore don't feel any gratitude. You might even go out of your way to help them only to find out how ungrateful they can be. To this day I still haven't managed to understand what it is that causes them to be so self-centered and unappreciative; is it that their empathy levels are so low that they barely feel any compassion, or maybe could it be simply genetic?
I stopped trying to rationalize this sort of behaviour a long time ago. I've just accepted that some people are just who they are and nobody can save them. Maybe I sound pessimistic but pessimism sounds smart they say. At least it gives me peace of mind and the satisfaction of knowing I am in the right to stop supporting and putting effort when it is actually expected rather than appreciated.
It's something I did in the past but now I rarely put my time into the hands of the ungrateful. It's not like I expect you to say thanks when I do something for you, it's more like I want you to realize that I don't owe you jack and I do what I do because I truly care. My time and resources are limited so spending amounts of those in order to help one in need shows that I care about them. I never expect anything in return and could easily come up with more efficient ways of exchanging my time for resources than helping you, but if I did, please just keep that in mind.
I hate it when people complain about the one thing I haven't done for them instead of being grateful for everything I have done. This sort of attitude drives me crazy and makes me want to puke. Sorry, not sorry. Wanna know why? Cause at this point it's pretty obvious to me that in their mind I'm not even helping them at that point. I have a duty to do this. I am obliged to save them from their predicament. It is my job to get their work done. That's how they perceive things. That's the reason ungrateful people will always keep complaining. And it makes me sick.
But again, I'm an empath. I do realize that this sort of attitude will only hurt the one suffering from it. I do worry that they might be punished by their own behaviour and feel sad to realize that ungrateful people just can't be happy. Blinded by anger, they refuse to see the simple truth; it's not that they constantly complain as a result of being unhappy, the truth is that they are unhappy because they constantly complain. Happiness is a mental state.
Some people just don't want to be happy. It's more like they want everybody else to be miserable as well. People that would enjoy your failure more than they would enjoy their own success. People that have ten problems for every solution you might come up with. People who only remember the one thing you never did instead of showing appreciation for the thousands of things you actually did for them. People who don't care about you when you are no longer beneficial to their life.
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@lordneroo
My attention is very much called to you, the comment you write about people who have ten problems to any solution that they raise. I had never thought of it that way, but it is true, there are those who see a problem in all, never a benefit and less if it is for others.
Today, there is a lot of protagonism, you all want to be the ones to take the baton, as well as the conductor.
In addition many dismiss you as if you were waste, when you can no longer solve their affairs.
I consider humility and gratitude above all.
Blessings.
Hey thank you so much for taking the time to read this and leave such a thoughful response. Yeah, unfortunately some people are just negative and nothing can be done about this.
Agreed, humility and gratitude above all.
Take care!
... very well said !
Sometimes people don't notice the things we do for them untilwe stop doing it ...
Thank you so much for reading! I agree, they say you don't know what you've got till it's gone.
In short, it is to be toxic, the difficulty of this situation is that it seems to have no solution, perhaps it is a mental state and should be attacked with the due attention of a specialist! I believe that in such cases we must reach out to this horizon, thank you for sharing.
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Thank you very much for the kind words! I'm glad you liked this :)