Hmmm without being with you during the whole situation it is very hard to decide anything, and I think perhaps it is also unnecessary to decide if you are paranoid or if your friend really wanted to harm you/ your relationship. I think it is sufficient that you felt bad. This is never a good sign. And I think it could be helpful to speak with your husband, why he acted like he did (went with your friend outside and left you alone). Because in my opinion it is not so important how your girlfriend behaves, but how your husband reacts.
If your girlfriend is also very close to you, maybe a conversation could help to understand her motives for behaving strangely. And it could be interesting to compare her behaviour with other situations. Has she betrayed you already or is she normally a very trustworthy person?
(if she is not close to you, I would forget the whole thing and never visit her again)
I hope I my English is not to confused and bad… and I could get my point across. I hope you do no longer feel sad about this situation
Your English is excellent @neumannsalva. It is good you speak more than one language. Well, my husband and I had many discussions. I think he liked the attention and apologized to me. We had not seen her in years so it is not someone we visit often. All is well and you are right my husband has to be held to a high accountability. It is okay now. I should say this is the first time we have seen her in years.
Happy to hear you could solve it. I find such situation emotionally taxing and I hate to let them simmer...
And yes, being able to speak multiple language is so helpful. Sadly, I can only read and write English, you do not want to hear me talk. 😄 I have many friends who do so good with languages, me not so. Maybe my attitude is not so helpful: I want to speak perfectly and before I manage this, I just don't speak 😅😅