Many Years back, when i was in High school i witnessed firsthand School unrest when three teenagers held the school to ransom and attacked our entire teaching staff including the school principal.
Ever since then i have tried to figure out why teenager would join gangs ?, why teenagers would prefer gangs ? and unethical orientation to moral and sane reasons to be good?.
I have also tried to figure out who is to blame for all that the teenagers turned out to become and why they had to experience very early the 4 walls of a correctional facility (Juvenile cells or prisons).?
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Who do i blame? The family? The school? Our Religious groups? or The Society?
21th century society would rather let the kids go astray and focus on solely their kids rather than caution the would kids colletively.
The 21th century family now dose what "Child Literacy Expert Sue Palmer" would term "Electronic Babysitting"
Parents who fail to discipline their children properly are creating a generation of angry children who lash out in the classroon and other public areas. Children are twice as likely to be aggressive and disruptive if they had parents who were violent, critical or inconsistent in what they allowed them to get away with at home.
Better still children tend to be better behaved if their parents combined warmth with clear and consistent rules and boundaries.
Parents who used negative discipline had twice the rate of children with severe behavioral problems compared to the other parents.
Harsh parenting trains children to become anti-social and hence they contribute or head societal vices.
Many times i wonder and people wonder why teenagers would think of joining gangs. There are many different teens and reasons why they all join. Some for power, status, looking for friendship, famly, peer pressure, money or fame.
The most pertinent issue of all is Depression.
Teenage depression is one of the causes for teenage involvement in societal vices.
when the body, mood and thoughts are affected by the way they eat, sleep, feel and even think, then there is every tendency that mental problems arise even at home, school and in the society and when not treated properly teens then to drift away.
IF parents are aware of these signs then the cure is 60% achieved.
IF parents don't show signs of depression then the teens are safe because the parents have direct influence on the children.
The family, The school and Our Religious Wings have got lots of work to do and it starts now.[image source]
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Let it stop and this is how!!
Parents Should get involved in their children's activities
Encourage their education and study habits. Strong education and training are directly related to Teenages positive development.
Encourage participation in good after school activities.
IF our teenagers are GOOD today then They will Be BETTER tomorrow
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Parents to some extent are be blame because there is a saying that train a child the way you want him to grow and he will never depart from it. The family is the first social group and learning stage of ever child so if Teenagers involvement in societal vices and who is to be blame it all bounce back the parents. However peer group is another arm of consideration because outside family the peer group and school the child attended should be blame. The religion group is where teenagers should learn moral but freedom to worship and life have brought about compromise in passing this moral teaching to them for that discipline have no place again in the life of teenagers. Now even in our schools no more discipline and i can remember dose year during elementally school discipline was the first thing a child will learn and that was what was use for award of certificate but today gone are does days. Now if elders try to discipline a child you see a child telling the elder i have my life to live so you imagine the generation we are raising.
Nice one bro. But why do you think freedom of worship is a pertinent reason for the decay in our teens?
I think there should intermediaries between parents and teenagers.
At this stage of our lives, we start knowing more about ourselves and tend to be a bit secretive. Teens need a gentle but firm hand around their shoulder to make them understand that they're not the only ones who have been through this stage and that their parents can help out.
Parents, especially in Africa also need to learn how to listen to their wards.
What more can i say. you said one very important thing. #Secretive and again teens needing a firm but gentle hands around them. Thanks
Nice one @tochukwu88 i feel parents have a lot of homework to do.most times when i see teenagers of this generation,i weep.We all need to go back to the drawing board.
great contribution. Enlighten us what you mean by #Homework.
75% of parents especially the 21st century parents are guilty of poor parenting,we now have parents who dont really care whether their teens portray bad habits or not,parents who now allow the environment/society to decide for them,parents who are scared of correcting their teens.Growing up as a teenager then, my parents knew that was a very delicate phase of my life,they did every thing in their power to guide me.
We have an old adage that says "okro no de grow pass im owner" but that adage is not longer been adhered to by parents
So by homework i mean parents should always evaluate themselves and their parenting style and finally work towards building great teenagers