There's no defamation of character, personal attacks, or anything of the sort. Anyone claiming that is just being silly, they probably got emotional/defensive, projects are people's "babies," so to speak. I don't hold anything against these dudes for getting mad at me for pressing them. They've most likely cooled off by now and are like "Ok, this isn't such a big deal." Stress is a bitch!
I think that the reason that, that is being perceived is due to the defensive nature of the replies. I'm not attacking. I'm inquiring. Nothing more, nothing less. All's good!
Trust me, I understand completely, I don't believe your doing any of that... I'm only trying to keep this from getting worst. They shouldn't get defensive about any of your concerns and if they do.. they should refrain from trying to make you seem like a bad guy.