What's this? Helmets? Smiling faces?
When we first arrived in Mexico, back in May 2017 (Yikes! time really does fly by!), we bought these two beauties second hand, because we decided the exercise would be great for both of us, and we didn't want to spend a fortune on taxis everyday.
But as you know, Brian has been getting more and more tired, and we were finding that either by walking or riding our bikes, he was exhausted by the time we arrived at any destination. So we'd bike or walk to a restaurant, sit down, and more often than not, have to get our food to go because he just couldn't sit there any longer.
Our friend was upgrading his scooter to a real motorcycle, so TA-DAAA, look what we bought! A scooter :)
It's not that big, has gears, is a bit beat up in spots, but is the perfect size for us! It's 100cc (most scooters are 50cc), and goes up to 100 km (60mph) which is way faster than we're going to do with it haha, although we have had it on the highway and it keeps up just fine with the flow of traffic.
The very best part about it is that we can actually go places and Brian's not exhausted by our arrival. The first time on it, he was smiling and said, "I feel alive again" !! That is worth more than anything money can buy <3
OK, so notice my title, This did start out as a happy post! I know, I can hear a big collective sigh going on out there. When I was looking through my photos to find one of our bikes, I found this of Brian, the day we bought the bikes. I remember because we were all excited and went out for a beer haha. Beautiful and so healthy looking. Brian and I sat and stared at it, stunned really because when you see a person day to day you really don't realize the 'deterioration' going on.
Here's a picture from yesterday. Yep, still a beer in hand :), but he's holding it weird because our glass mugs are getting too heavy for him to hold it 'naturally'. We both thought he was looking tanned and healthy still, until we compared these two photos today. And yes, it made us both terribly sad. I still think he's beautiful, but Brian sure doesn't think so. I can however see the forced smile, the added lines on his face from being in constant pain, the dark circles and the overall grey-ish color going on. He rarely smiles "big" anymore (because of all the broken teeth he has as result of the Prednisone he takes daily) and says he hates the look of it.
We're both still a little speechless from it all.
Sorry guys! I know many of you will read this and think, How am I supposed to comment on this one? Nice bike, too bad Brian's doing so shitty?
Don't worry; just send your love and kind thoughts ... it's what we both could use today.
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No matter what... Brian still has his smile for you @lynncoye1
No matter what (whether a bike, a beer or a scooter)... you both have each other.
That is true and unconditional love
You said it @goldendawne! Everything else is just extraneous :) Thank you <3
The past is done, time for some fun, peddled then when we had skin, now we ride, not to hide to feel free, and race the breeze. We still go slow, yet we are bold, to the future we will hold. Off to dinner, and a beer, sitting down to enjoy a meal, all because of two fast wheels.
Look back with fondness, but try not to let it hit to hard. If we all looked back say 20 years and let it control us, we would all be living in fear. Enjoy the new ride.
awww thank you @bashadow. You're a poet and maybe(?) don't know it :)
I try not to look back because aging in an of itself can sometimes be depressing haha, but you couldn't pay be to be a teenager again :)
You're right, looking back with too critical an eye can just be detrimental; "look back with fondness" is key!
Thank you :)
So much LOVE and kind thought your way beautiful friends. It's a pleasure to be on this journey alongside you both. Blessings, joy, peace & vitality to you both. ❤ HUGS ❤
awww thank you as always @yogajill for your positive and loving comment!!! Brian and I appreciate it always <3
Allthough you end the post maybe a little sad... Just start thinking about the great moments you'll have together with that bike. What a beauty! Just look back and think back at the great times you had together, you still love each other. No time for regrets and comparing pictures 😘
Keep on enjoying those beers together! But please don't drink while driving 😉
Oh Lynn, this is exactly what I was thinking.. what to say..
So as you said.. I'm sending you lots of love and strength! Big hugs to both of you! Stay strong my dear!
My pleasure Lynn ❤ You are such a wonderful family! You are an example of what love between two people should look like!
A scooter is quite good, I remembered landing in the hospital riding bicycles, the doctor's said I was anaemic
Beer seems good, and you both in the first picture, is the kinda couple I want to have/be when I grow up 😁😁😁
I think Brian still looks tanned and healthy in that photograph @lynncoyle1. Maybe you more of the things you describe, up close and personal. His smile doesn't look any different either to me.
I've mentioned before I'm always surprised at how healthy Brian looks given the degree of his illness and I think the same looking at him in this photograph.
I'm sorry to hear you're both feeling a bit down with it. Hopefully you can take another look and see things differently.
Heaps of love to you both. 💙
It's funny, but I had you in mind when I was writing this and was wondering what you would say!! Thank you; today is a much better day for both of us :)
So happy to hear that @lynncoyle1! 💙
Well, I guess I can't use that reply. :/
I am really sorry to hear that it's still progressing. I'm encouraged that you were able to get a scooter though. They're super helpful when you need to get around, but don't want to pedal. I imagine in a smaller(ish) town that it can meet your needs fairly well. Look at you two, real bikers! Ha ha.
Also, it made me think of the Larry Crowne Affair. :D
hahaha I just showed Brian and we were killing ourselves laughing ... neither of us have seen that before :)
Thank you :)
Tattoos. motorcycle drugs alcohol. Who are you. I don't recognize you anymore
That is a great thing. I can see how he gets so worn out walking and bike riding. you have to put that basket on the back of it.
I hope he will be able to get out and enjoy things more
hahaha WE burst out laughing with this!!! Best medicine ever :) Thanks!
I have not been following as you and I both composed paths only recently...Brian is your husband and is not well I obviously take from your post. What I can see is the absolute love you have for him. That is absolutely beautiful and inspiring. Best wishes to the both of you.
Thank you so much @blewitt! The short version is Brian has cancer, we've tried treatments and we've hit the stage of "let's just enjoy whatever life we have left". So we sold everything back home (Canada) and moved to Mexico; it's where we always talked of retiring.
You pegged the most important piece of the puzzle though ... absolute love 😅 This is both our second marriages, and we've only been together 8 1/2 years.
Thank you so much for a lovely comment!
I see. That’s an awful situation to be in but I love that you guys are not letting it beat you down. The steps you’ve taken to enjoy the amazing time left is commendable and inspiring. I couldn’t even imagine being in that position...yet you handle it with poise and grace. My heart is with the pair of ya and know that your guys will to just live each day together, and love together...it’s truly something amazing.
@lynncoyle1,
I didn't know you guys were Canucks! I thought you were from ... San Francisco! I thought you sounded a little "too normal" for California ... but strange things happen. I'm from Halifax. Growing up, I lived in Regina for a number of years as well ... my Dad was a Mountie.
There's no way to Gild the Lilly is there? Be thankful for whatever you can. Start with the beer. :-)
Quill
Your kindness extends to even your readers. Not many would think of that perspective. And that's why you have such a special place in my heart @lynncoyle1.
You and Brian. Being all the way over here, never having met, not even chatting I feel like the two of you are my dearest friends. Seems weird and stalkish perhaps LOL...
Thank you for sharing these precious thoughts and moments. The bike does look good. I am happy to see him with a beer in hand, and I'm glad that you both got to ride out in the sun and get out and about.
Your little stalker friend from across the globe xx
I just love my little stalker friend!! I am often in disbelief at the true feelings I have for so many here, yourself included!
That is very kind, and also very perceptive; thank you for everything! <3
<3 <3 <3
I can see what you're saying. You can see the pain in his eyes and yes the last picture his smile is forced. I know that look all too well.
I know it's hard on both of you. Enjoy what you can for as long as you can. I really wish we could relieve some of his pain. I know that would put you at ease too. My thoughts are with you both and you know if I can do anything to help. <3
aww thank you @tryskele! It seems at the moment, that with every bad day, comes a good one, or at the very least, a lot of little good moments :)
You're very welcome. The ironic part, that's life. Bad situation? YES, but you've actually have the greatest gift that so many never learn or know and that's love and the appreciation of those moments all of us are guilty of missing.
We can send our love and I will...Love you two! Be strong. There are a lot of people out here hoping and wishing for you to have a good the rest of your day. But its the love you have for each other that will get you through the shitty times. And I agree with everyone else, I think Brian is looking good :)
howdy Lynn! hey that bike was a great investment! this will enable you more trips out and about so that was very smart. I didn't know that Prednisone causes you to lose teeth, I'm so sorry to hear that. I know you are both strong and enjoying the most that you can out of each day, God bless you!
Lots of hugs and love to you both @lynncoyle1. I'm sure that at times it can be very tough for you both.
"I feel alive again" ! That is worth more than anything money can buy...
I can so relate here..I rented a bike on one of my travels and I felt so free and alive, it was better than any taxi or luxury buses.
you guys look so happy here .God bless you always..
Sending you lots of Love and a big squishy bear hugs ❤️
I suppose its a bittersweet post just like life!!! Lovely scooter and at least Brian is not tired anymore! he can go for longer!!!!
Despite the degeneration, his still doing pretty good! enjoying his beer and going on adventures!! I wish you guys many more adventures together and hope that always fills your heart with Joy!
Just Keep on Keeping on!!!
A scooter is best to keep you close...and holding . stay together and be happy...👍
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I wish I would have come out to see you guys when I was in Acapulco. I truly admire you two and have you both in my prayers. ❤️
What an awesome new ride! That's exciting! You look great on it! Brian that beer looks good. I'd join you but it a little to early in the day for me! But Cheers though!
Lots of love 💕 sending your way. The scooter was a great idea, enjoy and look at the bright side. Those smiles on your faces are melting hearts. 😍
Well it won't help any but I sure do look a lot worse than I did last year myself. But then I am getting pretty old. We bought a Harley last spring. Figured now or never before we get too old to enjoy such things.
We decided that if we pile on enough leather and those helmets nobody will know what we look like under it all.
Stick a helmet on his head works wonders for us.
Seriously though wishing you many blissful sunlit days of riding.
Scooter ... that is too cute just like a couple of kids.
Sending you guys loads of love and hugs xxx
It's a hard one, so I shall just send you and Brian giant bear air hugs all the way from Oz. xxxx and some kisses to follow that!
Well, he looks a lot better than I was expecting, and I'm really happy that it will be easier for him to get around. Oh, and nice bike. :)
Stay lovely, you two.
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That must be hard seeing these two pictures.. and I can understand that he doesn't like to show his broken teeth.. maybe he has a forced smile, but that's not that strange being in constant pain.. It's very sad that he is has to be in pain all the time.. I can still see a beautiful person though, and I'm sure everyone will look through the things he doesn't like to look at himself..
I hope the scooter will give him more days of freedom!
Its great that the scooter has a positive impact on Brian! At this stage I imagine it must feel so good to have some energy within him, that plus your constant love definitely helps. Take care guys!!
Apologies for the feels, but this is all I could think of when I read your post, dear lady...
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Much love to you both. ❤️❤️
Looks like fun!
Writing a comment is indeed quite often a bit difficult. Each time I just wish you have another lovely day or even hour. I guess it just feels like support that so many Steemonians write a comment? Or an upvote to show that live along.
Right now I'm wondering if I'm allowed to ask and want to ask, if you have any idea how long Brian still has?
I'm not following you from the start, so I don't know if you ever wrote something about what Brian precisely has? And how long the doctors gave him?
Anyways don't feel obliged to answer this question. As it is more important to have some fun then answer questions for one of the most curious Steemonians.
I totally forgot to reply to this, but truthfully, we decided to never ask the doctors and for them to never tell us. Brian always thought it would be a self-fulfilling prophecy for him. And no problem that you asked either :)
sending loads of love and hugs and kind thoughts xxxx ( you made that reply nice and easy for me)
Hola @lynncoyle1, me encanta tu relato, que bueno que compraron la moto, asi Brian, ya no estara tan agotado, y se siente más vivo que nunca, Un fuerte pero cariñoso abrazo lleno de mucha energia para los dos.
I feel your pain in this post. Make happy memories and live each day the best way you know how. This community will always be here for support.
From the main image - I thought you guys were going to ride horses! LOL
hahaha that is funny!
Woooooow...... very beautiful 💗 thank you dear friend 💗😍😘