Haha, how could I possibly disagree with you here?
Convincing others always implies that we find our way better than the others' way. But on the one hand, what is good for us might not be good for others, and on the other hand, if we have the freedom of doing things in our own way, we should acknowledge that others too have the freedom of doing it in their own way.
Most peoples' method these days is to avoid victimization by victimizing others. Like offense is the best defense. Yet this is unaware offense in fear of getting attacked oneself. This exposes all the 'weakpoints', so that in the attempt of victimizing (attacking) others we victimize (attack) ourselves.
avoid what we want to stay away from the ugliness of someone we care about, but need the right method to do it
Ah! I wish all people in relationships remembered that. 😌