"How you do anything is how you do everything"
The above quote is so true. When you examine your own habits or your attitude to life, what do you notice? And be honest with yourself. Are you always in a rush, even when eating a meal? Never really savouring each bite? Are you always leaving things to the last minute? Getting ready for work, packing for your vacation, doing your homework? Are you always running late? Do you tend to avoid confrontation, but to the extent that prevents you from speaking your truth?
To be honest, all of the above applies to me (although rushing my meals only happened after I became a mother, I'm normally a slow eater!), but the point is, that how we handle the little things in life is a reflection of how you handle ALL situations in life.
I recently made the decision to merge my two blogs into one. I thought that I needed to create two different blogs with two different identities, in order to connect with two different audiences: those interested in the motherhood journey, and those interested in all my other musings on cryptocurrency, my acting career, and life in general. However, after only a couple of weeks of writing almost every day, whilst also being a mother to my two little ones, it started to become quite stressful doing double the amount of work to cater to my two different audiences, thus turning out to be counterproductive.
Last night, I found myself wide awake, unable to sleep due to thinking about the mounting work that I'd given myself for my blogs; which posts to write next, which posts from other people's blogs I needed to read, comments I needed to make, comments I needed to reply to, etc, etc. And all this while co-sleeping with my boys (we live in a one bed apartment with a king size bed and a cot bed side car!) trying not to wake anyone up with the light from my phone screen. In that moment, I realised that something had to change, otherwise, my writing would soon become a source of stress rather than joy, which would inhibit me from producing quality content for the audiences that I was catering to; and then it suddenly dawned on me - the only audience that I needed to cater to, was me.
I needed to remember exactly why I started blogging in the first place. Yes, I want to connect with other likeminded people, yes, I want to make a difference in other people's lives, and yes, I want to make the world a better place. However, none of that will ever happen if I don't write for myself, first and foremost.
This was a painful lesson that I learned when writing a screenplay for a production company a few years ago. They liked a previous script I'd written and wanted me to write something for them, based on idea they had for the plot. I spent months (writing for free) submitting various drafts, and working on the many notes they would give me - and I'm not saying that notes are bad, because that's pretty much how screenplays get developed for production, but what ended up happening, was that I quickly forgot about my voice as a writer, trying to cater to every single note that I was given. I had created my own Frankenstein, and I hated it. My experience with that particular script actually put me off writing in general, I had started to associate it with unhappiness and lost all confidence in myself.
Writing from the heart, with your own voice, is not only authentic, but also a demonstration of respect for yourself and for the reader. I think that you can always tell when someone isn't being genuine with their writing, producing content for the sake of producing content, rather than being true to themselves.
So, in the spirit of authenticity, I am combining the forces of my two blogs into one voice, speaking from the heart about all things that I feel are important to share with others, but most of all, things that are important to me.
Bump and Beeyond, meet DramaMama, I know that you'll get on just fine.
And by the way, if anyone knows how to share posts on Steemit via Wordpress (or vice-versa) to save me time so that I don't have to copy and paste everything, please let me know as it'd be much appreciated!
Stay authentic guys. X
(Image taken from Pexe)
I wish you all the best in your blogging journey. I like that you have a focus on authenticity and that you're aware that so much that is important to us can't be narrowly defined into a "topic focused" blog. I often tell people that my Steemit Blog is a "potpourri" of my observations. It is far too varied to be limited to one title or theme. I found you through the #payitforward contest. Your post was featured by @tryskele. Congratulations and I wish you all the best.
Wow... I had no idea about this contest. How lovely! Thanks for letting me know about that @energyaddict22 and thanks for taking the time to read and comment. Best wishes to you!
P.S. I like that, a “potpourri” of you observations!
I think you've made a great choice coming to Steemit. Is the perfect?? Nope.
The people here have a different mindset. Most seem to really want to build connections and interact. Of course there are crap spammers, not much we can do about them, except ignore them and keep working on good quality content and promoting that. Eventually the good should outweigh the bad. (At least we hope).
I don't even you having little ones. It's kind of nice when they're grown up and doing their thing. I really love the change in the dynamics of our relationships. I do have wonderful memories though.
Thank you for taking the time to read my post and for leaving a comment.
This community is filled with so many voices, so diverse and so talented. I’ve already learned so much in the few days that I’ve been on here, and I’m so happy to be connecting with likeminded people, like you!
I’ve heard that with parenthood, the challenges constantly change and evolve as they grow up. I’m still in the middle of diapers and potty training, but I look forward to seeing how our relationship evolves as my little ones grow!
Thanks again. Until Monday! X
You're very welcome :) Commenting and communicating with others really seems to be my niche. Hope you had a great weekend.
I just found out about the #payitforward contest from another member who found me because of you..... Thank you so much! I am so touched by this. Thank you x
You're very welcome :) I read your introduction, it was very entertaining. Plus the little bit we've gotten to chat. I can't wait see what you'll be posting. <3
hi @dramamama, I support you in your decision to merge your account. Maybe it would be better to call it @happymama? You happy mother, you have 2 your baby. I wish you good luck on Steemit and good health to all of you!
Thank you @vipnata! I really appreciate your kind words! X
thanks @dramamama