Every time I get that "what could I have possibly done to change this outcome" for stuff like this, I think well stuff could have been a lot worse. Then I stop fretting about it (and then youngest does something that requires immediate attention XD).
Least you have an idea what you're in for :) And everything will be fine :)
That is very true, I absolutely know what lays ahead and things could be a lot worse. I look at our family and think gosh we have a lot to deal with but when you look at others who have life threatening illnesses and such it really reminds you how fortunate you actually are.