You are way out of line in your assertions.
Anybody can fork Bitcoin at anytime, just copy the code, and name it whatever. This is how most alt-coins have come into existence.
There is an indisputable consensus among Bitcoin miners in support of BTC Core and its road-map
Please see who is securing 96.5% of all the BTC blocks:
Coindance : https://coin.dance/blocks
This is old news, it was decided in a miners' meeting held in Hong Kong last year. But some hard heads keep on spreading FUD ... ;)
Core's road-map points to deploying Segregated Witness first.
This will bring about 75% more capacity with the current block size, and a myriad of other advantages that will accelerate further development without the need for hard forks. Yes, as you pointed out, hard forks are dangerous!
SegWit is already being tested and it will soon be ready to implement in real BTC blockchain. And YES, 96.5% of miners will support it.
As long as you grow, scaling will be a never-ending challenge
Bitcoin has been growing and maturing for 8 years already
Please be patient