Great post, and brave in today's world. That's unfortunate.
Early in our marriage we agreed that we'd go without rather than my wife working outside the home. Our focus was on the family and we homeschooled. She did, however, do daycare at our home for a few years.
To insinuate that she didn't work, even when the daycare wasn't going, would be asinine. When someone asked me what she did, I'd simply tell them that she took care of her family. If they asked if she worked (or insinuated that she didn't), I'd inform them that she worked harder than me. I could do some hard work she couldn't, but couldn't keep up with her. And her hard work in the home probably saved us more than she could have ever brought home while paying for daycare, etc. She tried for a couple of months during a difficult stretch and it just made things worse. Plus, the benefits of having her home and raising our boys at home will last generations.
My wife never felt like what she was doing was less. When she'd read/hear such trash, she'd call it out for what it was. Our sons are out of the home now and the only thing she says she regrets is that she didn't focus more on the family during those years.
No, we're not equal. She's better in many ways.
And I'm sure you're better in many ways, For one you can admit that your wife works harder than you! XD
Objectively men accomplish far more while at the same time being so modest to pretend that women are all beautiful and (in magical, not measurable ways) "better" than men.