Hello Steemians, I trust everyone is well
On this post I would like to talk about something that is quite common, the people I like to call thieves of dreams.
I've talking about putting the work on your journey to be surrounded only by good, honest people.
But to do this, you must be alert to be able to recognize the opposite, the ones I'm talking about today.
I was also talking about our real family we can build along our journey, that not necessarily is related to us by blood. Our true family involves everyone that want what's best for you, that truly care about you, related or not. Unfortunately I know people who have parents, or siblings who are not good to them, and to me that's not real family.
My late father is a great example, he had parents that were not fair with him and made him suffer a lot, however he was able to build a real family with his wife, his children and friends who are sometimes as precious as brothers.
But I digress enough, regarding the thieves of the story.
We have to be alert to this aspect of life. Since I've trained thousands of people along my career, I've had the opportunity to study this very thing in detail.
What is scary about the thieves of dreams is that they are closer than one would imagine. I would even say that the first thieves of dreams we will encounter will probably be within our very own family.
I'm not saying that they act as thieves for your dreams because they have bad intentions, but regardless of it all they do. Many times people around you project their dreams onto you, and hence they expect you to go down the path they think is the correct one.
I had a good father that taught me a lot of fundamental things I needed for life, things like honesty, respect, loyalty and responsibility, and of course that was precious to me. So what I'm about to say might sound confusing, but my father was a thief of dreams for me. Because he had always been an employee, when I would tell him I wanted to be independent and build my own life this way, it made him scared, and he would tell me that i was sure to fail.
In his mind rich people are born rich, he would tell me I had my head in the clouds, and I had to get a good job and get to working.
As you see, someone who was very important to me, someone who taught me foundational things about life, my father, was robbing me from pursuing my dreams. On the other hand my mother always supported me, and constantly pushed me to try harder, so I would often share my dreams with her, and her alone.
People that empower us are the magical elixir for our lives, they bring us the energy that we need so that we don't give up when things get really difficult.
So the message I'm trying to leave you with today:
"Beware those who want to take your dreams from you"
And always be alter, because they can be very close to you, they can be those who you are constantly sharing your ideas with, but they keep on putting them down, literally becoming the roadblock in your life.
This does not mean you can't enjoy these people, have a party, enjoy a drink, nothing like that.
What I'm trying to say is that with those people you will do best staying quiet and keeping the dreams to yourself.
Another lesson I learned is that is best to listen to life advice from people who have lived the situation before, the situation I'm sharing. To listen to advice that is just an opinion with no experience, can be counterproductive, it's all speculation after all.
Much Regards for my fellow Steemians
People like to view the world from their eyes, the whole world including yours and theirs and so whenever you attempt something that doesn't align with their mindset you're wrong to them.
The most important thing is always to be your head straight up and your mind focused because your life is yours to live.
Yes friend! thank you, Please don’t forget to be a upvote for all those who have had time to comment like you, because that is how we will always help each other. This will always be my concept here in this family and I see that people are forgetting to do this. Be generous regardless of your SP. What matters is attitude! Regards
Ok. Thanks
Dear sir!
The importance of family knows that person who is connected with the family. The family term is not limited to the members of the household, but also those people who take care of us are included in our happiness sorrows in the family. The way you take care of the community and steemers who is associated with the community, of course you are the head of this community family. Your heavenly Father was, of course, a very good person, who has taken care of his friends who were same as brother with his family in such uncomfortable circumstances .
The thief of dreams can only steal your dreams, not your ability, your qualities, your skills. Your consistency always stayed with the good people, because you yourself are a very good and settled person.regards
Thank you my friend, you always share comments and I am very grateful to see you always contributing with your words. Regards
Thanks sir for kind words. Your words give me motivation.
How true. The sad fact is that we don't realize how many people we come in contact with in on a day to day basis - inc. family - can have such a detrimental effect on our self-worth, confidence and opportunities because one doesn't realize - and wouldn't want to accept if they did - that often it is those that are meant to love and support you the most that do the most damage.
There are some ways to recognize these people. Here are some tell-tale signs to be wary of:
Those people who make you feel defensive, and one way or another will criticize or point out worst case scenarios whenever you have an idea, opportunity or any new venture that they are not directly involved in or haven't suggested themselves.
People who keep suggesting that you make changes to your appearance, from clothes, to your hairstyle or colour and of course weight. And they won't be direct; it'll be something like "you know highlights are in now, no one is choosing one colour anymore', or "are you going out like that?"
They will be critical or indifferent about friends or significant others who have strong characters and over whom they have no control.
Those are just a few basic traits, but one thing is certain; deep down you are never left feeling good after seeing these people and sometimes you don't even know why.
Unfortunately this is a subject I am all too familiar with, and I think it's great that you brought it up. Awareness is the key.
I am new, well recent, but I never introduced myself. I hope you'll check out my posts. Happy Sunday.
Hello, you're welcome and I'll see your posts. I would like to thank you for your time and for sharing a comment that totally expresses what I meant. It's a great addition. Be very welcome to the @chbartist family and make sure that I want the best for all of you and hope that this family with positive mindset grows as fast as possible. Do not forget to air an upvote at all those who took the time to comment like you because that is how we will always help each other.
this is why our inner narratives must be strong otherwise folks will be able to break you down to their level and pull you into their worlds.
DREAM ROBBERS!! So I would rehead this post @chbartist. Forgive me for not seeking your permission to so do; I hope you understand!!
Yes! Dream ROBBERS abound Everywhere: Beside, Around, Among and WITHIN Us.
But the Most Dangerous Robber is that WITHIN us; without whose Permission, the External Robbers of Dream CANT Rob and Destroy Successfully.
The Within Robber is ME , YOU, SELF masquerading as FEAR which Produces DOUBT which Stalls ACTION which births INACTION of No MOTION which finally leads to FAILURE because Success is MOTION!!
SUCCESSday Wishes to All Steemians!!
Exactly my friend, thank you for sharing your words with all of us. Regards
ACTION will eventually leads to one's SATISF-ACTION.
Hi @chbartist I am good and hope you are good too. This post is about true relationship. I grew with your opinion in this. In life we are surrounded by many relations like mother father wife kid friends etc. We should care more for the relations who care for us. Also it's better to learn thru someone else's experience rather than getting yourself stuck in the same problem. By this way we can save our self. Have a great day buddy.
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You understand exactly what he meant! Regards
In this instance, such person who is also experienced in many areas of life like your dad who has seen many people fail when they follow their dream to be independent by owning their own company(s). Such persons meant well. We can not just avoid them, but try as much to understand them.
Good se you my friend. Hello, you're welcome and I'll see your posts. I would like to thank you for your time and for sharing a comment that totally expresses what I meant. It's a great addition. Be very welcome to the @chbartist family and make sure that I want the best for all of you and hope that this family with positive mindset grows as fast as possible. Don't forget to air an upvote at all those who took the time to comment like you because that is how we will always help each other.Regards.
Excellent and here to raise the mood 😂😉
Life will allow you to be happy when you let yourself be a slave of your dreams and seas, builder and architect of your future. It will drag the past to prevent you from moving forward into the future with the necessary strength and enough to be happy. Never give up, move on, because each difficulty is an experience to learn. It is not worth surrendering. Positive people always manage to make things difficult, and they are even those who sometimes get to achieve impossible things. Fill each new positivity day and start making your dreams come true
Hello friend, you made a comment with the most beautiful words and analysis that I saw here in this post. Receive with my gratitude my 100% upvote.
Please, don’t forget to be a upvote for all those who have had time to comment like you, because that is how we will always help each other. This will always be my concept here in this family and I see that people are forgetting to do this. Be generous regardless of your SP. What matters is attitude! Regards
You upvoted a comment spammer buddy.
Thieves of the dreams....
Pretty awesome title and what you write that is also awesome. Efficiently explained how and who is the thieves of the dreams.
Our family is very important to us. All of us work for our family. We work hard to give them every facility and comfort of the world. They could not be the theives of our dreams. I'm talking about the family (mother and father) which is in our blood relation. Some time they become defensive because they know the situation, at that time we cannot determine they are the theives.
@chbartist I'm not agree with this line
May be you are right in your way but think about it if you are on his place. As you said your grandpa is not fair to him so he might be faced allot problems. That's why he become defensive and told you find a good job. He has too much experience about life how things go worse he already experienced it personally. According to me he just want to see you happy that's why he taught you that type of stuff.
About this line I just want to say
IF WE BORN POOR THAT IS NOT OUR MISTAKE, IF WE DIE POOR THAT IS OUR MISTAKE...
At last I just want to say that you write a great and awesome article, I feel it in my soul when I read it because every word you write is directly perpotianate to life.
Thanks for such type of great article.
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Thank you friend, for you time and comment. Read what I reply for @pbock. Maybe you don't understand about I say about my father! Regards. Please, don’t forget to be a upvote for all those who have had time to comment like you, because that is how we will always help each other. This will always be my concept here in this family and I see that people are forgetting to do this. Be generous regardless of your SP. What matters is attitude! Regards
Hello @chbartist, Your advice is much valuable for people who are suffering from problems. my father and mother always encouraged me in every moment of life. I faced a lot of problems in life from my close friends, but I never lose hope. We always need someone who can give us courage in down times and that part is played by my parents in my life. They are a great blessing for me.
No doubt that our dreams are theft from our close friends or family but we can prevent them by giving them strong logics or by just ignoring.
Life is very beautiful , we just need to see that beauty of nature which is hidden in the world.
I also appreciate your hardwork in helping and building a strong community.
Have a good day
Thank you so much my friend. You are my family because understand my concept. Please, don’t forget to be a upvote for all those who have had time to comment like you, because that is how we will always help each other. This will always be my concept here in this family and I see that people are forgetting to do this. Be generous regardless of your SP. What matters is attitude! Regards
Long story short: avoid toxic people.
Great post.
I've been facing this scenario of seeing my dreams go away from me for a very long time simply because I rely on family for financial needs. So, they tell me which path to take and which not to take because it's their. It's my dream to study software engineering but they put me on electrical & electronics engineering.
I was try to stick to my instincts and keep believing as much as I can.
Thanks for the words of advice.
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My friend, follow your heart because I can assure you that it is far better to make mistakes for ourselves than for others. Please, don’t forget to be a upvote for all those who have had time to comment like you, because that is how we will always help each other. This will always be my concept here in this family and I see that people are forgetting to do this. Be generous regardless of your SP. What matters is attitude! Regards
Maybe no one has said this before but I think it's your responsibility to reply to comments on made your posts. I read and support like 25 - 40 posts everyday and if I had to go through all comments, I guess I would've quit steemit because of stress. This post for example has so many comments, most of which can be described as a post. How can one survived reading and upvoting all?
I guess this reply may sound rude but it shouldn't be taking as such.
Thanks for understanding my friend
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I try to do my best my friend. My time is very short so I have many assignments in my life but even so I try to do my best even using the dawn to give the best attention to those who comment. But of course you can not always answer everything, but I try to give the maximum possible support and upvotes and you should have realized that I really do it with pleasure. I also ask you to rely on upvotes especially to those who make analytical comments and great complements giving upvotes to these people whatever their SP. The most important thing is to build a family that supports each other and that is my desire here. Regards and thanks for the comment.
Hey chbartist! Well this is the first post i actually read on steemit after i logged in. Since i'm also very new about a few mins into steemit, this i feel is a good way to start and hopefully will go a long way.
I'd totally agree with what you are saying, since most of us are creations of someone else and we do not get a chance to do something what you've imagined it to be. You are going to be my first follower. Cheers and have a nice day sir!
You are very welcome and read the other posts that you will understand better what I want for this family, with all my heart I want you to have a positive mindset and help each other with respect and generosity. Please, don’t forget to be a upvote for all those who have had time to comment like you, because that is how we will always help each other. This will always be my concept here in this family and I see that people are forgetting to do this. Be generous regardless of your SP. What matters is attitude! Regards
Perceptions are very treacherous as some people play the part to influence your thoughts but it is really a manipulation of what benefits them only. I look at “Corporate America” that way... Despite being built on entrepreneurship, they instigate becoming and staying an employee for their benefit instead of folstering true skills to prepare you for your own business. The mold must be broken in order to be free from the glass ceiling sometimes set for you!
I can relate well with your statement regarding "Corporate America". Money is at their heart for all decision making, not your best interest to follow your dreams.
Exactly my friend, I've always been a paradigm shatterer and I'm still going to think deeply about it. Thank you. Please, don’t forget to be a upvote for all those who have had time to comment like you, because that is how we will always help each other. This will always be my concept here in this family and I see that people are forgetting to do this. Be generous regardless of your SP. What matters is attitude! Regards
Without a doubt, we must share our dreams and ideals only with people who can agree with us. We all have different dreams, and not everyone works what we dream, we must know how to find people who really connect with our dreams so that they force us to realize them.
Exactly my friend! Please don’t forget to be a upvote for all those who have had time to comment like you, because that is how we will always help each other. This will always be my concept here in this family and I see that people are forgetting to do this. Be generous regardless of your SP. What matters is attitude! Regards
Yes, I think I gave a vote to 2 people who commented. I'll do that!
being vigilant of energy bandits is indeed a smart choice. there are folks who will try and drain your potential for their own mechanisms. we all should seek to be aware and admonish these people!
Exactly friend! Great words!
Surrounding yourself with good people is the way you may know peace and be encouraged to pursue your dreams. Good people motivate and inspire others. They always feel like family when you are around them
Exactly my friend! Have a Good day!
You too @chbartist. Stay awesome
It has been said you are the average of your five closest friends. Choose wisely, my friends!
I agree 100% with you on this. And the sad part is that it's so hard to let go of the wrong people in your life. But when you do, that's when you feel good and see things clearly.
I understand you but we have to seek peace in our lives to follow the path we choose and this we will only achieve with people who are true friends and want success without envy.
HI chbartist,
I relate well to what you are saying. Most of our older family generation had a different perspective toward life than the younger generation. Of course values like honesty and respect never go out of style, times do change. What may have worked in the past my not work today. We need to take this into consideration and make our own choices, but listen well to advice from someone we love and respect. After all, we have to live with our own choices and I agree not to let anyone steal your dreams. Thanks for writing this informative post.
Exactly friend! Thank you for your time! Please don’t forget to be a upvote for all those who have had time to comment like you, because that is how we will always help each other. This will always be my concept here in this family and I see that people are forgetting to do this. Be generous regardless of your SP. What matters is attitude! Regards
Im still learning how Steemit works. Upvoting for those who make good comments will help each of us; is that what you are saying. Yes, attitude is so important in everything you're write. I like reading your posts...keep the good ones coming.
Hi @chbartist I am good and hope you are good too. This post is about true relationship. I grew with your opinion in this. In life we are surrounded by many relations like mother father wife kid friends etc. We should care more for the relations who care for us. Also it's better to learn thru someone else's experience rather than getting yourself stuck in the same problem. By this way we can save our self. Have a great day buddy.
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Exactly friend! Please, Don’t forget to be a upvote for all those who have had time to comment like you, because that is how we will always help each other. This will always be my concept here in this family and I see that people are forgetting to do this. Be generous regardless of your SP. What matters is attitude! Regards
Sure @chbartist I will do.
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Great to share your perspective of the different areas of life, in this family and if it is true sometimes it is difficult to leave a person who hurts us when you have appreciation, but the most correct is to let the person go the good of both since we can hurt ourselves unnecessarily and when one wants someone they want is the good of said people, it is good that you share deversas informations, Greetings @chbartist
Thank you friend for you comment! Please, don’t forget to be a upvote for all those who have had time to comment like you, because that is how we will always help each other. This will always be my concept here in this family and I see that people are forgetting to do this. Be generous regardless of your SP. What matters is attitude! Regards
Rightly said! When you get surrounded by such bad people or bad thoughts or bad intentions, just use the six letter magical word 'IGNORE' and stay calm.
Exactly friend! Please, don’t forget to be a upvote for all those who have had time to comment like you, because that is how we will always help each other. This will always be my concept here in this family and I see that people are forgetting to do this. Be generous regardless of your SP. What matters is attitude! Regards
Personally I think this is a bit unfair to the "dream thieves".
After all, as you said, your father didn't mean you any harm, and has taught you a lot.
I think a better adapted term would be Projectors, because they project their vision of life, their beliefs of how the world works, onto you.
Other than that, your article is right on point.
We humans do have a sad tendency to project our beliefs and understanding of how the world works onto others, and that's valid for every domain out there. Be it religious, scientific, business or just day to day behavior and identity.
But they're not so much taking your dreams from you as they're projecting their ideas and beliefs onto your dreams, seeing what they believe is the only possible solution, and trying to make you conform to that vision.
Just my 2 cents on the concept :)
I respect what you said, but I was not unfair to my father and maybe you did not understand what I meant. I never fought with my father but I was aware that he would not be the right person to direct me as an entrepreneur. I always respected this and he saw a lot of my success before he died but like I said I never fought with him because it is easier for people who are entrepreneurs to understand the head and who is not and that is precisely why I never fought with him my dad. I respected his vision but unfortunately he acted like a dream thief even though he did not want to. If I had followed my father's head I would not be one's I'm just what I mean. Already my mother was always an inspirer and because of her I got to where I am from the point of view that I am trying to say in the post. I love my father for all the best fundamentals of respect, hierarchy, honesty, and generosity. My mother also taught me all these fundamentals of life but she was positive. You understand? I appreciate your comment. Don’t forget to be a upvote for all those who have had time to comment like you, because that is how we will always help each other. This will always be my concept here in this family and I see that people are forgetting to do this. Be generous regardless of your SP. What matters is attitude! Regards
Ok, sorry if I didn't quite understand what you meant. It's much clearer now.
I just thought the "thief" label was a bit strong, as normally it's something intentional and often malicious.
But the way you explained it seems to be more in line with what I was getting at with the "projectors" idea, so it looks like we agree on the meaning ☺
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No problem my friend is natural that this happens here in steemit because of the differences in the meaning of words among many different cultures. But the important thing is that, we learn different cultures through dialogue always with respect above all else as you are doing here. Thank you for your kindness and respect and that's always will be the point here. Respect above all. Regards
Sir,We also get a lot of inspiration from your life journey, which you see in the ups and downs, we will surely benefit from it.
Thank you. Please, don’t forget to be a upvote for all those who have had time to comment like you, because that is how we will always help each other. This will always be my concept here in this family and I see that people are forgetting to do this. Be generous regardless of your SP. What matters is attitude! Regards
I know what it is like to be in your situation. It is a culture here in my country but also a common trait of family members.
I don't know if what I will tell you will be useful... but this is coming from my experience.
" Do what ever you wanted to do or achieve... at first they will ....nag,criticize, discourage you, sometimes condemn you... but life must go on....I know it is difficult but it is more difficult and more stressful doing the things that they want...
Prove to them that they are wrong by your achievements but don't let hatred root in your heart."
Exactly, you do not have to do anything to prove it to anyone, you have to do it for yourself and the competition is with yourself. My father saw part of my success but he did not come to see my successful journey completely because he unfortunately died before. But even so he saw part of it and we never discussed who was right because I did not to prove it to him, I did to prove it to myself.
I'm sorry to hear that... I know your a strong person...I can sense that you are well equipped for life...full of knowledge and lessons from experiences...continue doing what's the best coz I know your a good person...and even though I don't know you well ...I am one of those people who believe in your capability....
True words..@chbartist It is always good to do what we like and face all the consequences rather doing something which is said by others that we dont like. Its good to listen to others opinion but decision should be ours we should have clear thought of what we really want and follow that.
'' always do what your mind says"
But some people are there who are really inspired and encouraged . They really help us in some crucial situations. Your friend @d-pend is the perfect example.
Exactly friend, Thank you for your time and for sharing your ideas with us all, I greatly appreciate it. Please, don’t forget to be a upvote for all those who have had time to comment like you, because that is how we will always help each other. This will always be my concept here in this family and I see that people are forgetting to do this. Be generous regardless of your SP. What matters is attitude! Regards
Sir, you said a very good fact that there is no need to have a blood relationship to make a family. Your conduct should be good.
Yes, that's exactly what I said. Our true family is made up of people who really care about us even if they are distant for thousands of miles. Regards
Even if we get a chance to escape out of the trap set by those theives we need support and one secret is that I am using steemit to make something for me to build myself strong so that I can raise my voice but I don't think it will work for me and I am sitting here again hopeless and restless thinking that what to do 🙁
Friend what I can tell you is that the first thing is that you have to have faith in yourself. My competition in life has always been with myself and I think you can start competing with yourself without worrying about others. We are all capable if we have faith in ourselves first of all.
Do you know I don't follow you from steemit life I came to know about steemit from you. I am reading your articles since long time I am thankful to you for giving me an opportunity for leading a to good life by motivating and by letting me know about steemit it was much needed. Thank you so much I am going to adapt your advice 🙂
No problem my friend, not following me and being part of this family is your decision and I respect this but I want you to know that I have always worried about you so that you have a positive mindset and have the best of life. Please don’t forget to be a upvote for all those who have had time to comment like you, because that is how we will always help each other. This will always be my concept here in this family and I see that people are forgetting to do this. Be generous regardless of your SP. What matters is attitude! Regards
Do not dream while sleeping Because at the dawn they end.Look at dreams with open eyes that no one can steal.
Exactly friend!
Greetings ... On our way there are many ... friends and family that are sleep thieves, the important thing is to identify them ... and then simply be reserved or away if you could stay out of that person.
Happy start of the week!
Exactly blessed. Good see you again! Have a nice week too!
If human beings are honest then people go joining with him and become like a family. Your point is very good.
That is exactly the point! Thank you!
These people are who doesn’t have confidence to complete their dream with there own. So they target people like us to complete their dream with their decisions this what I understand. As I was starting my career I will take care of this thing
Exactly my friend! Regards...
Its always Good have someone close.
But if someone is having somthing inside you wilk always feel that sooner or later
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You will know for sure.
@chbartist
If you feel that there is someone who can steel you dream. Have at least a hand distance from those ugly faced ones..
Have trust only those who loves you and cares for you.
Exactly!
Please, don’t forget to be a upvote for all those who have had time to comment like you, because that is how we will always help each other. This will always be my concept here in this family and I see that people are forgetting to do this. Be generous regardless of your SP. What matters is attitude! Regards
@chbartist
I really want to upvote other but What I have will never make people happy.
But still as you say from today I will upvote.
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You may not know where you're going, but so long as you spread your wings the winds will carry you dear @chbartist
Great words! Regards
I am experiencing this from my closedones 😊. Why our loved one's impose their experiences on us?
Let me travel my own path... please don't ask me to stop
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You can fly your way, it just depends on yourself
We have to careful before trusting people who are forcing there dream on us
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The real problem is how to identify them before the incident?
This is simple, my friend, just pay attention to those who always try to discourage everything you want to do. Regards
Some time people's not steal your dream they help you to complete your dream. Like your friends or your parents.
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These people you're saying are not dream thieves. Stay close to them
Yes I stay with and thanks for replying. I want to talk with you. Please support my post.
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Being surrounded with good and supportive people always brings positivity in our life and also it helps us to be positive.
Nice post
Good work
Hi there :) Thank you for this #awareness. For me, Always be yourself :) Always stand up for what you believe in and never regret the past because its a waste of time.. There's a reason for everything.. Every mistake, every moment of weakness, every terrible thing that has happened to you.. grow from it. :)
"Beware those who want to take your dreams from you" ---This is by far one of the best advice I've learned today. Some people are happy in stealing that dreams in your life but it is our choice if we let them in. Go and Dream BIG!!!
@chbartist gave you a vote!
If you follow me, I will also follow you in return!
Please steemit is a community where friendship is won and not bargained. You must always read reply to contents in a way that would make the person follow you in his own free will. Thats the only way to build yourself. Thank you
Perfect!
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True and really motivating
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Excelente!
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