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Granny needs to finally grow up

I have thought exactly this so many times! And noted how Sabrina sometimes slips into similar behaviour. It is easier for me to let it go knowing where she inherited it from.

Direct is the best way. But the short term earthquake it would cause isn't worth thinking about. I think if I was going to settle here that would have to be the way forward. But thankfully I'm not and for now I am practicing acceptance.