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Exactly. A lot of time ends up being spent fighting to get your point across and removing the notion it's a personal attack, which feedback isn't.

Sadly sometimes you're just unable "to remove the notion it's a personal attack"... I have personal experience when a person says to my face one thing and I'am left in believe that everything is fine, but then I discover that actually she've understood me all wrong, and for two years no improvement to the situation, she just wouldn't talk to me honestly. So I left all attempts of feedback and keep silence and distance, unfortunately this brings unpleasant consequences for a child she is raising. :(