Sexual abuse is the most common problem in any part of the world. Most of the children do not even realize that they have been abused since they do not have the capacity to understand the Good touch and the Bad touch of these monsters....
The statistics show that at an average 1 out of 10 girls and 1 out of 50 boys under the age of 18 go through sexual abuse and this happens normally most of the time within the family itself or by known family members or in school premises. Its such a shameful act that where the children need to be protected and taken care by the elders the same elders are doing such nasty acts.
Most of the time the children do not even realize that they have been abused, or there are some children who realize but they do not have guts to speak out or there are even some cases where the children inform their parents, but the parents try to keep them quiet due to feeling shameful in the society. Its so disgusting when the parents themselves don't support.
There are times when these childhood traumas go all the way with the Child's life an impact them in many ways. I had a case sometime back where a Girl who is now 35 but she was abused by her House cleaner when she was around 6. She did inform her mother, The mother did not know how to deal with this situation so the only thing she did was removed the House cleaner and asked her daughter to forget the whole incident and never talk about it. She has never been able to forget this incident and it has been constantly playing on her mind, and she suffers with severe migraine problem.
As responsible parents and elders in the family it becomes our duty to prepare our children against such abuse. A few things that we can do are:
1.Educate the child on the Good Touch and Bad Touch: Educate them on which are their body parts which are public and which are private. Which that can be touched in public and by anyone, and which that cannot be touched by anyone at any point of time. Do not feel shy about talking to your children and educating them, answer all their queries be it whatever. Like you would teach them parts of the body, make them understand the private parts functions also.
2.Be Mindful of your own Behavior: As elders in the family you need to be very mindful about your own acts in front of your children. They will learn what they see and if they say vulgar behaviors from your side, they will not be able to identify the right and wrong.
3.Teach them not to take anything from strangers and not to talk to them: Teach your children to not give our their personal information such as address, telephone numbers to any strangers. If they see any stranger trying to make more conversation with them and trying to touch them in anyway, they should immediately let their parent know about it.
4.Do not put fear in your Child about Sexual abuse: The important thing is to educate them and not scare them. If your try to panic them they will become overcautious and start doubting every person.
As Parents and Elders in the family it becomes our responsibility to protect our Children. Whenever a Child is trying to tell you about these experiences make sure that you listen to them, believe in them and remain calm.
Give them confidence that they have not done anything wrong. Make them feel safe and get immediate help for them.
Support your Children and Make them feel safe. It is our responsibility to allow our Children to grow in Healthy and Safe Environment.
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Thanks for talking about this. Awareness helps! Upvoted@nainaztengra. You have addressed an important issue - very relevant to the times today. People treat it almost like a taboo to speak of this subject. Imagine the plight of the young ones if elders do not even wish to discuss the subject.
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Yes in our side it definetly is considered a taboo. Its sad that if the children cant speak to their parents then who else can they fall back to. I have also seen this in high societies where parents claim to be very open to their children but when such issues arises they try to suppress their kids by asking them to be quiet
Which helps girls who are afraid to file a complaint
thanks ninaz.there is a very popular project in Israel calls #metoo
Yes dear I am aware of it. METOO is a global initiative. I wish we can bring in some change in the society with these initiatives, but the point is not about children expressing. The people who are responsible for such filthy acts need to be punished severely
Nice post @nainaztengra. It is time to create awareness in children aginst child abuse.
Yes we all need to come together and do our bit in whatever big or small way.
It's so sad that some older people take advantage of the young in this manner. It's sicking and gross.
Yes its a very gross action, but they never realize because of the desperation and frustration that they hold within them
I believe though pedophiles can never be fixed, death penalty for pedophiles is a must.
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Yeah, I have seen too many with EVERY family... one or two perverts. Especially 70+ men with dead wives or frustrated sex lives prowling on 13-year old girls. Sicks bodies, sick minds.
For guys, it happens more in hostels with bully seniors.
Thats so sick. These type of people should be punished severely. The major problem I have seen is with the parents themselves. Most of the times in fear of shame they avoid confronting such situations
Well, most often it's the uncles and grandpas/distant grandpas who do it. Parents are scared too when they learn and sometimes advise just not to go near them.
Dear @nainaztengra , i'm so glad you bring this hyper important topic on to the table here at #steemit . The statistics you cited are so discouraging. I even read one that one in four students at university in the US encounter sexual harassment during that time at college.
It is a massive attack on women everywhere in the world. It's epidemic, crosses all religions and races. It is a Male problem and we need to address it.
Thank you for starting the discourse here.
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Thank you my dear. You are right this needs tp be addressed very strongly but the problem is all these NGOs who are so called to be fighting for human rights are also major culprits.
Its very shameful for our societies to be so tolerant towards such grave issues
Such a tough subject :/ But absolutely necessary.
I wish we lived in a world where it wasn't.
great post! very important theme!
Thank you dear
A very worthy post indeed. Nothing pushes my hot buttons, my anger, more quickly than hearing about an abused child. ....yep, I'm already mad. Ok, gonna cut this short. Thanks for the post. Much love and light,
X
Thank you my dear. Yes it is very painful to keep hearing and they seem to be so commonly happening in almost every household in some or the other way.
Fortunately I understood this and raised my children as wolves and not sheep. I made sure each one could defend themselves in case of things like this.
Some of the kids I grew up with had ...problems with adults.
Ever since then I have had a white knight attitude towards them. Protect the innocent and destroy the evil doers. Society has indulged these criminals for far too long. They do not need understanding or jail or medical intervention, there is but one way to deal with them.
And that is where I shall stop, before I say something that I will regret.
X
I can understand your rage and its very much justified.
Rage was the perfect word for how it makes me feel. Justifiable Rage. Anyway, this has been a great post. Informative.
Much love,
X
you have touched on a very sensitive subject in such a good way with great and solid advise
Thank you my dear
your wel
As always you address tough subjects head on with solid advice. Thanks for writing this post.
Thank you my dear. Till the time we dont get loud and clear about these issues it is very difficult to assure our children about their safety
So very important. We live in a society that take all this a taboo and change channels when an educational info comes.
Ohhh yes you highlighted a very important point. Parents and elders shy off to even let their children get information from other sources.
Wao very interesting, I will take into account and talk with my nephews and on this issue I find very good what you say about the private parts, is a good way to explain, thanks for the information dear. A hug!
in an ideal world, that is what school would teach children instead of playing memory games with stuff they will forget a week after the test is over
So true, ideally the teachers should be educating on these issues including the parents but nowadays schooling is one big money making business. They want to show all fancy things and turn away from basics
Thankfully the schools in many US states have initiated Erin’s Law, where the school counselors and social workers are required once per year to teach a lesson to every classroom about inappropriate touching. Parents are informed about which week the lesson will be taught, and they may opt out ( a red flag). Inevitably some students find the courage to come forward after their Erin’s Law lesson. The lessons are age appropriate and informative.
I hope it works better than the laughable sex ed they had in my high school years
This is something really wonderful that the schools have initiated. I wish there are some more of these practices across the globe. Problem is also with the cultures. The 3rd world countries are way too far to think in this line.
Great and informative post! Thanks for taking the time to share this!
Thank you
Yes every parants should prepeare there children to avoid sexual abuse.
Thank you
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The bollywood film Highway touches this issue beautifully. This movie is a must watch for anyone who loves thoughtful cinema
Yes I have seen it, but only I wish that people could learn something from such movies and just not take it for entertaintmrnt.
seeing this makes me cry because of the experience my kid sis had
this is mostly common in my country is like a normal thing for them i stand with you to abolish this monsters
upvoted and resteemed let the whole world see this
I am so pained to hear about your sister my dear. I hope that the family did take some action on that monster and I hope that your sister is ok emotionally as these kind of events leave a deep impact on their mind
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That's why we elders need to take care of our kids so they won't be ignorant to how our world can be cruel sometimes.
Very true, elders need to be vigilant about their children and support them
Useful and informative post thank you dear friend
@nianaztengra
Thank you
Such an informative post! The project #metoo is also very popular in Romania! Thanks for sharing @nainaztengra! Happy New Year!
Thank you very much for reciprocating
Child rape is a very bad news for a country. For that,Public awareness is very important. We are the parents of the girl child, only they can tell about our children to the harmful effects of these bad things.
Thank you very much for sharing public information about rape with us
Very true, when we have a girl child that is the time we realize the importance of such awareness, but now a days the boys also need to be careful, there are some real beast out there
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You are more than welcome!
How to count, but I know English, I was an abused child, when I was 9 years old!
That you should be careful with who you leave caring for your children, that's why I say: Take care of yourself, of who takes care of your children!
That's really very sad to hear. Yes you need to be very sure of the person with whom you leave your kids with.
Nice post. I would like to add one more point. Parents should have good communication with children. Thus if anything happens, children should be able to talk to parents about it. In many cases, this could prevent incidents from happening or at least actions can be taken to stop abuse in early stages. Coz if not checked, it could go on for a long time.
You are very right, if parents have an open communication line with children it becomes easier for them to inform their parents about any mishaps, but when parents close down on communication then the children never dare to speak up
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as a parent this is something that terrifies me.
Yes its a nightmare for every parent, specially when the child is a girl.
It's good post @nainaztengra, you gave a good contribution to all parents. It's also the ways and tips to avoid sexual abuse that will be happen. Every parents hope them child save from sexual abuse. They will apply this contribution into their daily life, i am as a parent will do too.Thanks a lot for this post, i love it so much.
Thank you very much for reciprocating on my thoughts my dear :-)
Communicating with your children is the most important part of being a parent. Being supportive so that children are comfortable sharing anything with you without the fear of being judges is very important.
Very important issue to talk about ✨
Only a morally ill person can use sexual violence against the child. In my country, it is very negative about this phenomenon and the Lynch Court can arrange such a person. This disease and children should be warned by the basic safety rules ... Thank you, good post and the right topic
My daughter is very talented.. but something inside warned me about children actors being abused. Now it's coming out :(
Thank you for writing a solid piece of advice on a very sensitive issue.
Excelente articulo. Saludos
What a great and important message.
My son is six and I am trying to teach him about appropriate and inappropriate things to talk about. Also parts of his body that he should not show people. It is very important.
Thanks for you caring!
I so beleive you. Its better to talk, teach and prepare you children about sexual abuse so that they can report to you when ever anybody tries to sexually abuse them sexually.
We are not used to developing skills in our infants for difficult situations and less sexual abuse, good post. In many societies this represents a tabu although they do have overwhelming abuse rates
wow! very interesting and expository post. i hope everyone concerned learn their lesson and change for the better
Keep up the good info! Voted and resteem
Hola @nainaztengra, el tema que tratas sigue siendo tabu en muchas sociedades incluso las más avanzadas, muchas veces los niños no hablan porque el adulto que los abusa los hace sentir culpables, como dices en la mayoría de los casos es alguien cercano a la familia o la familia misma. Es lamentable la falta de educación sobre el tema y el miedo que se vence al hablar cuando ya se es grande, siempre he creído que todo lo que pasa en nuestra infancia nos forma y a la vez también nos marca. Mantengamos esta flama encendida para iluminar más mentes y corazones, gracias por tus palabras.