in my country a father does not need to beg a child to do something for him. if the chile refuses, he would receive the beating of his life
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in my country a father does not need to beg a child to do something for him. if the chile refuses, he would receive the beating of his life
While a father could choose that route - I think if he wants his children to learn to enjoy similar activities he may use varying levels of encouragement before starting the beating.
I don't think anyone wants to hear anything about cryptocurrencies after the beating of his life.
truth but the way things are done in Africa are quite diff. i see the way yhu have fun with each other over there. not that there is no fun here but the dont joke with the word respect in a typical Nigerian home.
when a father calls yhu, u are expected to rush over to him. and when he is talking to u, u dont raise ur head.
all these things help in future though
I appreciate you sharing - it is interesting to learn about other cultures.
I had a strong, strict (although not Africa strict) and loving father, there are things I will probably try to do differently, but he provided a good example to me of how a father should be, I suspect yours has done the same for you.
Perhaps there are things you will do differently, and over many generations things will change - but it will always be important to have respect and deference for one's parents.
yeah respect is the word.
well my dad was a strict dad. he does not take nonsense. i remember when we were little, we were not allowed to go out of the house. but as children we would want to go out and play or better still watch tv in a neighbor's house and my dad hates that. if he comes back and does not meet us, he would beat us a lot.
here is the type of cane he uses
picture from google
it is called koboko.
his had 6 mouths so that it will be distributed all around the body.
well i can say some of the beatings =were too much but the motive was a good one.
in Nigeria a lot of things are happening. for example i had of case that a woman stole her friends's child and used the child for money rituals. this wouldnt have happened if the child did not go to the womans house. this is one one the numerous things the koboko was meant to correct
my brothers got still punished with that kind of a thing. Personally - and I have raised 3 kids to be very functioning adults - I think hitting your children is a terrible idea and doesn't lead to happy adults at all.
It takes more work to correct a child's behavior with kindness and explanations and so forth - but beating a person just installs fear. To me, that is not respect.
one of the things civilization is already changing but till it finally changes all. welcome to my World
I hear you. It takes time. My brothers were spanked with a thing you showed, I, only by hand -my kids, not at all...... Change takes a bit of time.
thank you for sharing. here in our country we dont force our children to do things they dont want to do especially when they are enjoy playing unless if its needed and had to.
thanks for sharing