P.S. I could easily write a post or two to provide input to many of the points you make in your post. I will only add a very succinct comment on the one which seemed to always trip up like-minded parents here the most.
What is that?
In whatever way it is expressed, the argument about needing to go to school to be ... "socially well adjusted." This is just garbage. And false. Figuring out how you and your beloved are going to raise your children to successfully stand against peer pressure, alone if necessary, is one of the greatest challenges you will almost certainly face.