Yeah yeah! It all depends on who is rationalising... It's not always nice when parents get involved.
I dunno which one our dear lady in the story will prefer, but I think not ripping the band aids will just make her more confused! Maybe she will becom more "responsible" when that happens?
responsible when which one happens? The way I see it, by putting focus on her being able to look after herself as the main issue instead of blankly ripping it in a I don't want to be with you situation, before the relationship is over she should have adopted this new look at her own future although it starts as a means to prove that he should stay.
When the ripping happens😀. Oh, I get how you wanted it to play out...