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2 days ago I was approached by someone who asked for monetary help in a private message on Discord. Here's what I thought about this, and the decision I've made.
Has this happened to you, and how have you reacted?
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Wow, that's pretty crazy. I haven't heard about it before. I guess the consulting your provided counts as help, even though it isn't straight up money he can use right away, it's information he can use long term.
yes crazy! But you know, talking with others who have been contacted by the same person, I now realize that he may be a scammer because he's been doing this for months! I think he didn't really care about my advice...
Everyone know who you are talking about :')
When I got his first message I decided to do some research as well. I saw he didn't post, I saw he got a lot of STEEM from others, he needed like 2 STEEM he said for helping some friends of his, and he already got 20 STEEM or whatever. So 20 days/weeks of money I thought.
Then he kept on asking and he kept on receiving. I understand that. It's a tactic that works and as long as it works why quit it :D
This was months ago by the way.
He's still doing it and well... I don't know. I just ignored him and decided I have no obligation towards him, and I'm not worried about him either because he seems to receive quite some support. I'm helping another person from Venezuela who actually writes well-researched articles in the hopes of receiving an upvote, but he never asks for support. That's a mentality that more suits me so I help him more.
Anyway, I understand your though process and you did more to help him than I did, so I can't say I think you're a 'total bitch', maybe I'm that :')
ahahahah wow I can-t believe he's been doing this for so long....now I regret being nice...oh well! You're far from being a B*** girl, no worries! And I totally agree with you - it's much better to help someone who's doing their best and is struggling and not begging, rather than someone who sits on their thumb and waits for others to send their earnings.
Hehehe, yes, seriously, I just looked up the message, it was send on 30th of July 2018 :D He sent a few more and after end of October he stopped messaging me :')
I completely agree with your mentality. Begging is begging, whereever you're from, whatever your circumstance there are ways to go about things. For example, what you said about him not even putting out a post about his situation asking for help rings alarm bells for me right away.
Anyway, my 2 cents is that you were more than fair in how you dealt with it. I'm not sure I'd have been so patient. Hope your well Eve 🙂
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heyyy all good on my side, and how are you?Yeah about that dude I already warned people in several discord channels...
I couldn't have agree more of your actions. I am really against people earning money by cheating/ scams/ fraud etc. because happened to me twice and it was my hard earned money. Not to say he was cheating or what since we haven't had any proof of actions yet but judging from your story it was not convincing that this guy had any good intentions.
By the way I have been following some of your post, though I didn't follow all but I really like most of them because it was a quality post and resourceful, and really like to learn more from you to be a successful steemians.
Much love from Malaysia!
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Thank you @asmeraldda =) Happy to help with advice, just hit me up on discord!
Yes, I agree, hard earned money shouldn't be thrown away to some scammers....time will tell if he is =)
I think I know exactly who the guy was, I also had a guy form VZ send me a message on discord and I don't know him form a bar of soap. I just thought it was a bit brash and I just blocked him. If you spending your time begging you could spend your time doing something constructive.
I know it may sound harsh but hey im from Africa and theres no free lunches this side!
Yeah he did the same Thing about a month ago and I also didn’t know him at all... fishy is when you offer advice and they go “yes, but...”
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Great way of explaining it!!!!
Only help those that are willing to do the work to help themselves first 👌
I typically refuse to send anyone Steem directly, I do not wish to encourage the idea that I am someone to approach for a hand out when I’m only going to give you a hand up!
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Yeah I have blocked people in the past.. with him I thought I would try and see if I could help differently but if people don’t follow the advice then it’s their own fault if they don’t succeed
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A banker friend once told me they categorise lenders into group A, B and C when reviewing loans. Think it was something like families, friends then loose acquantance. If someone can't get support from either of these groups first before they go to the bank, then they're a high risk client. Same goes here, we're probably group Z to most requestors as we hardly know them. It's difficult to find a reason to give money out willy nilly. As harsh as it sounds, that's a fact of life.
Oh no! It sucks that it doesn’t load! Well basically I told him I wouldn’t help unless he helps himself first, and way defo category z since I didn’t know him at all 😆
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I think you are spot on and totally in the right here.The guy needs to "hit the pavement" and do work everyday here or at least make a valid attempt.
Glad you stuck by your principles @evecab
Thanks Robert, exactly what I was thinking ! There’s no such thing as a free lunch in life. Here in panama we have an expression “ la gente cree que la vida es un guineo” meaning people think life is a banana (because bananas grow everywhere here so you get them effortless)
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I got something similar.
Largely, I am too poor to help anyone else and I did not have any liquid steem at the time. These people could easily be making money here on steem by working, uploading videos and so on.
There's a point where these messages get nasty and that is when I start blocking people.
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Exactly .. this guy stayed polite but as long as I don’t see some sort of effort on his part, I don’t think it’s appropriate to dm people
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I have had this a few times in Discord from various people. I tell them to post about it openly and also to try @fundition.
I am also in my own difficult financial times and it is all in my posts. So anyone asking me for money has not read my blog. If they keep asking, I send them a link to one of my posts and ask them to comment there. No one ever has from this interaction.