I saw this yesterday and wanted to write a comment that just wouldn't work on from my phone - I have too much to say! lol
Firstly, thank you for the shoutout!
Secondly, I think there are two categories of women (there may be more, and the same categories apply to men), but in my experience, there are those who can, will and do, support each other, but there is a category that will not. I think that, by and large, and now there's an increasing body of research (I'm too lazy to go and look for the citations) that show that women are wired to be communicators and nurturers. In my experience, though, in the corporate world and other competitive environment where women oprate, the women who succeed, are either wired differently or they make a conscious choice to ignore that wiring.
I think that because many of us are nurturers (and you don't have to be a mother to nurture, and by the same token, I have seen women turn into nurturers because of motherhood - and that's where it stops), when we encounter the apparently hard, "give it hell, regardless of the consequences" woman, those of us at the opposite end of the scale, find it really difficult.
So:
according to research, women are critical and judgmental of each other
I think that there probably is research to corroborate that - in a corporate environment. I do think that there is certainly plenty of anecdotal evidence to the contrary - as you have said in your post.
So (again) I think your friend's conclusion is wrong: there may be a load of other reasons and one of them is because women are busy people and, I'm going to be lambasted, I think, busier than men because regardless of how the world has progressed towards egalitarianism, women still have much, much more work to do than men. Lots of it associated with the nurturing role I have mentioned. I have a theory as to why most games (traditionally, and until recently) have been developed by men.
They have the time. They take (or are given - depending on how you couch it) the time. They are not making sure the house is clean, the kids are fed, etc., etc. And women who are breadwinners will tell you that unless they have partners who take on those chores, they have a hard time. And, I bet you the fathers that are primary care-givers will also tell you that they, too, don't have time for the niceties.
OMG I have seriously digressed and gone on a bit of a feminist diatribe. Sorry. Maybe not....
All that is a long way to saying I think that women do need to be encouraged to support each other and because so many of us have been judged and have self-esteem issues, it's about how that safe space is created. And that women may need the freedom to move in and out of it as their circumstances and needs change.
My very long 2c worth!
My favourite part
I absolutely enjoyed reading this, so much so I read it once earlier but kept getting distracted... so saved it to read it later (now) at home :)
Thank you so much for your 2c worth :p
Which? That there is research, or that I'm too lazy to find the sources? LOL
Glad it resonated for you!
You are so sure that you don't even need to back it up ;p hahaha
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I am glad you are laughing. Some would have judged me for being so arrogantly lazy. Hahahahahaha!
I am just judging you for being cleverly cheeky :D
Judgement happily received 🤣
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