I wanted to loose my virginity at 15, it took me 2 years to find a willing gf.
At 17 I decided I really enjoy sex, I don't see any reason to wait... but I did get a few gf pregnant, and I was stupid. These days, there are excellent forms of contraception; I don't see any reason not to educate myself and be very experienced with a woman.
For me, waiting is buying into a lot of "dogma" that I don't agree with, and I feel is really from an era where we did not have all these new tools available to us. Today we have amazing communications, and we have medicine, and we have better understanding of so many things; we are aware, educated and much more sensitive to each other's needs.
Some books written 2000 or more years ago, could never imagine the world we live in today.
That said, dating a woman that only worries about getting married, and having children, can be intimidating for a man that wants to take time to get to know if we are really compatible. All the "noise" of family and community expectations, peer preasure, it's amazing anybody ever gets married, except the feeling of "new love".
Young Love can make people do things, get carried a way, and it's very intoxicating, being in LOVE! INFATUATION
But it's actually best to let the infatuation pass, and see what you really have THEN. After a year or 2, is there still something there to stand on as a foundation? Or are you both bored and unhappy?
Marriage can end up feeling like a trap, if both don't really want to continue growing together and do not really care to know more about each other, each year.
Relationships are hard work... anyone entering into a relationship needs to be prepared to do the work.
I have known many lazy ladies in my time, and they were not ready to do that work. Still growing up and maturing, still needed life experience. Were very inexperienced sexually, and did not understand how to please a man, or really even care to.. And certainly not prepared to talk about it, and grow out of it.
Wow! @surfyogi this is the longest comment I would see you make not just on my post but on steemit although I may be wrong. You poured out your heart into this and you made some very valid points.
Many ladies sadly nowadays only fantasize about marriage but are not ready to do the work that it entails. Many are not patient enough to build the relationship and watch it grow before such commitment. They simply want to go with the trend and also have that euphoria that comes with a wedding.
You having to wait two years before finding a willing partner is simply because girls that age are not as interested in sex as boys are. Good a thing you learnt from some of the mistakes you made earlier in life and you studied to know more now you are a wise man. A desperate woman is and will always be a turn off for men. They don't like being pressured into committing. They do it when feel it is right.
Like I said earlier, it is better to have a broken relationship than a failed marriage because a marriage not built on love and understanding is doomed to fail. If he doesn't picture you, let him go.
Reading the whole of this objective response, I couldn't stop laughing. Wanna point you some points that really got me cracked up...
😂really a when Lotta time to try hooking up. I wonder how you managed to sleep every night sir.
😂😂😂😂 not even one or two but A FEW! Hahaha That must be record breaking! 😂😂😂
You really know them sir. 😂😂 That's their major characteristics! Women's craving for marriage can make an ill prepared man and poorly-willed man go into marriage under duress
Best advice but unfortunately most ladies would not take this.
😂😂lazy ladies!
@zizymena over to you dear!
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