Hi everyone, this is not my usual kind of post where I share what I know or understand; I want this to be interactive. We had a discussion on this topic in my chat group and I wish to bring it on here on the Blockchain. Tell me what you understand by gender equality and feminism.
I am still a fan of the old school who believe a man should be respected as the head of the family and a woman should be submissive. I believe the greatest things a man needs from his woman is not sex or gifts, but respect, comfort, motivation and trust. I believe a man wants his woman to trust he can take care of her. He wants her to trust he has the abilities to be a hero. He wants her to comfort him when he is down and motivate him to achieve his goals.
You may want to ask, what about her own goals? Who really cares about what the woman wants? Well, from my own perspective, I believe what a woman truly wants is affection and support from her man. A strong woman has her own dreams and aspirations but she is not rude about it. She is not competing with her man by trying to take his position as the head. Irrespective of her status in life, she still sees him as her crown and pride and treats him as such.
I do not believe in the school of thought that tries to make the woman compete with her man. I could be wrong though. I would really appreciate your contribution to this topic.
Much love from me to y'all.
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What do I think.? I'll tell you ma.
The truth is that feminism has been blown out of proportion. I beg to say that it has turned upside down what was a norm and accepted principle of living.
A lady is meant to be a help mate and by nature likes to be cared, pampered and showered with love. This obviously makes them unique and impressible.
A situation where these women have now risen up to fight for an equal right that we never divided before. If you tell me that a woman should be productive, hardworking and innovative,i won't doubt.
But how can a woman now turn upside down lol these in the name of wanting to be above men. Yes above men.
The opposite of this, is the world's definition of a strong woman. If you notice, you'll find out that this fight has made ladies disrespect and non chalant to things that define them as ladies.
Though It also made them fight and pursue their goals. But it's better to balance goals and dreams and not confuse it with superiority.
I do hope some ladies can take some perceptions from you. Feminism has been blown and abused. There should be a check please
I think the world has turned things upside-down. The have taken away a man's reason for being a man.
Lol. Yes ma. They have actually. Have great weekend ma'am
Well talking about feminism, do you think that theory can be achieved?
Same has gender equality, i agree to that same school of taught, were the woman has to be submissive and obedient.
But not to the part, where she is counted a collosial disgrace in the society.
We should be given a fair share of the piece of cake, and i'm wondering how many of our women would contest for the next presidental election.
They've been shut up, they dont have a say.
Still repeat the old saying, like a broken record women cant rule
Fallacies all!
Well, i have hope in this generation
I hope for a revolution
Cos i'm part of the revolution.
Good evening @ogoowinner
Hahahahaha! I don't even think the men are our problems. Will other women in the country vote for their fellow woman?
Humm, i guess not
That were another problem lies
There are now several definitions of feminism these days that I've dropped the term altogether. Feminism is supposed to reflect equality for us - equal rights, equal opportunities and equal responsibilities. It was supposed to reflect the woman no longer viewed as an object or sex symbol, but as a being worthy of respect.
Sadly feminism has been hijacked by goofballs, misandrists, and confusionists. It is now associated with things like man hate, pettiness and intolerance.
Modern interpretation of feminism is dangerous
Thanks for this. I guess this is where we started getting it wrong.
I am a "FEMINIST" unlike what the mass think, a feminist is not a person who believes the man should take care of the children or not be the head of the house, a feminist is someone who believes in sociopolitical and economical right between both sexes. In other words, a person who believes that women should equall rights and opportunities in the society as men. That doesn't alter the tradition of a man being the head of the family in any way, most people just understand the word wrongly.
I believe some sad women who might have had some unhealthy relationships hijacked the course and are teaching younger women wrong principles under the guise of feminism and gender equality.
You are right, making them forget their God given roles in their homes rather than teaching them that all we want is to empower women in the society and not alter their roles in their family.
When this topic was debated on facebook some months ago, we couldn't come to a conclusion.
My take:
Among the goals of Sustainable Development Goals(SDG), Gender equality was listed. Giving women right to contribute to matters that affects them and the community. This was mainly pointed Africa and the Arab nation. Agitating for a better life for women and being able to speak in the presence of men and taken seriously. What a woman says, matters too. This is almost achievable already.
The ball has changed court as some certain women has taken it to a whole new dimension called feminism, where a man is seen as irrelevant. What a man says is not important as theirs stands out. Feminism to me, is an ability for a woman to be self dependent and living free without being a liability to any man. But now reverse is the case
You are absolutely right. I used to think that was what feminism was all about until some ladies started taking it to another dimension.
Thanks very much for your contribution here.
Gender inequality has always been a topic of gross discussion for 21st century radical feminist. It's okay to recognise a man as pillar of the family, be submissive to him, but the advice is, in doing all these, don't loss your being.
Yes, a woman has to be strong, but I personally don't believe she should stop seeing the man as the head.
I always tell anyone who cares to hear that "feminism is not about non submission in marriage, indecent exposure private body parts and all the nots"
Feminism is simply a call for equal participation in opportunities that enhances one's life without discrimination based on gender. Anything outside this is "pure anti-feminism"
I really love this.
Pin point comment. We learn everyday
I'm not a person that believe in gender equality but rather I'm one that believes in the motion gender equity(fairness to both gender). No matter how the definition and all the motions put forward to support gender equality I don't see it possible as existing. The male and female gender are different in so many ways for a reason we can't be equal not saying a gender is superior over the other there are somethings a gender can do well than the other.
We(male and female) both have our own roles and if will play it well respecting each other then I don't think there will be issues pertaining gender equality.
Lovely write up @ogoowinner.
Thank you very much for this contribution. I think we share similar beliefs in this topic.
Permit me to say this, i dont even agree with or like the word "gender equality". From the onset, things where shared in right proportion by the maker. What is there to be "equal"? Is it the "respect" that the man deserved from a woman or the "love" that the man ough to love a woman?.
No matter how the world look at things, there is always a standard measurement for things, everyone have the right to "somethings" . Two captains can never be in a ship. We are all equal in Gods eyes. Therefore, he shared the work in proper ratio.... No matter how finacially bouyant a woman can be, she must respect Gods arrangement of headship to man.
Thank you for sharing your opinion with us. But I still believe in gender equality. I only think in all of it, a woman should still respect and be submissive side her man.
Been a feminist doesn't mean we are men haters or they are set of women who don't like to cook. Been a feminist means we all matter equally.. That what a man is given because he has a penis, a woman should be given too.
Talking about patriarchy I don't give into that because have seen women been deprived of their rights, freedom and joy all because of it..
And this is one of the reasons I do recommend this books out to people
The first one in the picture..
It's a little but powerful book and am sure if you do read it maybe your pespective might change..
Thanks.
No lady truly likes a patriarchal society. But the modern day feminists are getting the whole idea of feminism wrong.
Feminism is a fight against segregation of the women folk i.e denying a woman certain rights simply because she is a woman.
Whether we choose to admit it or not, it is feminism that has brough us this far. In the days of our grandparents, girls were not allowed to go to school simply because they were girls and all the could aspire to was marriage. Now we have girls reaching great heights in the academic and other fields.
This shouldn't be a problem as long as the woman respects her husband and VICE VERSA, as I believe respect is the bedrock of any lasting relationship
My stake is that, feminism in its real sense isn't what we are seeing today from some so-called feminists.
My take on this issue is that I support the fact that women need more rights because infact truth be told some men take this superiority thing to far and they begin to feel like gods and that's bad but then when women that suffer from men like this get the chance to be superior they take it whole heartedly and even teach their ways to their daughters so that they wouldn't experience they same pain that they have so all of this gender equality thing still balls down to men not doing things right and women feeling if they take control they can do it better in d olden days men didn't fight with their wives because he would be considered a coward I understand its normal for a man and a woman to bicker sometimes but in those days men understood women but now some men even go as far as beating their own wives just because they feel "I am superior and she can't do anything about it" forgetting that a man is d head of the house but it's d woman dat leads the home some men are just so rude to women I would not say that I am a feminist but I will never support any man that treats a woman wrongly I believe equal right has made some men to come back to their senses. Women are fragile I once met a man that said beating a woman is like deliberately hitting a glass window Yes it will break but u will definitely be scarred if I should continue to talk I might exhaust the day but in my own opinion I support gender equity
Yes, I agree with you that some men are quite abusive. I have personally dealt with one abusing his wife. Giving a woman her rights as a human is very important. I'm only concerned about the modern day feminists who seem to be antagonistic against men.
I see you know I don't blame most of them for taking things to far the yoruba's have an adage that says "ti ko ba nidi obirin ko kin je kumolu" meaning everything happens for a reason although they are wrong for doing what they are doing but d difference between everyone's perception is their experiences
@ogoowinner, am so glad you came up with this topic, we just had a discussion about this in the office yesterday, you are absolutely right in your view, you don't call it an old way of thought rather but it remains the fact and undeniable truth. now here is the truth:
**truely a woman was created to be under a man, to love a man, be submisive and respect him, yes, any woman that goes against this, has altered the rule, but what happen when a man refuses to:
and lots more
let's be realistic here:
it's petinent that women should love and respect her man, but a mab owes his woman the responsibility to love, care, value and honour his woman because she deserves them all.
and o the aspect of her purpose in life, here it might be so difficult with a choheric temperament women who are always possessive and career oriented, but even at this, when love and understanding sets in, a mature and responsible man respect her woman's life purpose and gives her the chance to do what she was created to do in life but a woman should and must not misuse such an opportunity nor take it for granted.
thus
GOD CREATED EVERYONE FOR A PURPOSE AND THAT PURPOSE MUST WE FULFILL BEFORE RETURNING TO OUR REAL DESTINATION
my views, believes and opinion
Not all men respect and love their woman just because she respects him. I strongly believe in gender equality, but I still think a man should be respected and allowed to play his manly roles.
@ogoowinner, thank you dear, you are absolutely right but as for men, respecting and loving their women shouldn't be conditional
I am old fashioned o.. I believe a man is the head and should be respected. Even i believe a woman should be financially independent, but it should be to support her man not to compete with him. Even if the woman earns more, it shouldn't be public knowledge.
Lol dey follow mama dey do old fashion
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Nah una old fashion i dey o.
Woman should be submissive, bible says it @ogoowinner
I still love my traditional way of doing things. Thanks for your contribution here @nmalove.
Your believe makes you a better woman, I want to join your group chat
Wetin concern palm 👐 and palm oil? No matter how much a woman has achieved in life, she ought to remain humble.. My Bible tells me that "a woman must be in subjection to her husband and have deep respect for him"
Lmao! You try sha!
I believe feminism isn't necessary...
We should be treated anyway because of our gender but because we are humans
Feminism is bringing gender enemity and it's not healthy especially in relationships...
There should be mutual gended respect and also complements where necessary...
We are humans, we all need each other
You have a very lovely perception of life. Thanks for this comment.
Yeah you are right. we should not mix gender equality with the superiority of any geneder.
We both are equal. All what which we can do is give love and respect to each other.
i totally agree with this , woman like us only wants love ,respect care , understanding and support. we dont need much of those material things .
This is my own view on the topic at hand to me the goals of a woman should also be respected by a man the bible said the woman should be submisive to her house bt i didnt c anywhere it say the woman should forget her set goals in life which will give her happiness and follow her man blindly that should be noted bt it has already be said the man is the head of the family according to the bible and the woman is created just to make hin a better man bt not at the expense of her own happiness where we get this wrong is when we try to the social issues to interve with the scriptures e.g the scripture says the man is the head of the family bt according to the present day it is stated that both men and women have equall right and thats where the problem start from so its left for us to follow the scriptures or modern day civilazation
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