OLAAT - Don't Talk to Strangers - What should we telling our children?

in #family7 years ago

As I child I can remember my mother repeatedly saying to me and my sisters:

'Don't talk to strangers. Don't take sweets of strangers. Don't get in strangers cars."

Now this is sound advice, the delivery of it was not so good as I grew up being paranoid about being kidnapped, felt scared being outside alone, especially in the dark and for some inexplicable reason was incredibly shy . . . . . I can't think why?  

It's not what you say but the way you say it!

Now imagine how differently I would have felt if instead of having these statements programmed into me all the time, if my parents had actually had a conversation about this, in a caring and reassuring way, so the message was put across without all the fear?

Love is a Powerful Protector

Sharing with your children is far more powerful than barking orders at them!

Something discussed with love, caring and solutions will be far more powerful to help them feel confident and therefore not attract lower energies / troubled people to them.

My work as a Light worker helping others has shown over and over again that those who feel loved are safer and have better lives than those that don't feel loved, so if you want your children to be safe then LOVE THEM!

Teenagers are hard work!

You might have heard the quote:

Grandchildren are your reward from God for not killing your teenagers!

Any parent of teenagers will resonate with this, some more than others!

I have to say that understanding energy and how it works has been a huge blessing with dealing with teenage behaviour! I believe the key to having the easiest ride through teenage years is to separate teenage behaviour from the adorable child you bought into this world! Your child is still adorable, just being 'possessed by some evil teenage programming' designed to drive parents crazy - kind of literally!

If you can keep the love flowing, keep a sense of humour and trust they will outgrow this phase then life is easier. Doing this will keep your child safer because your love is protection for your child, in terms of actual frequency, but also in knowing that they can come to you for support and advice and keep the communication open.

Life has progressed

Life is ever changing and this is what I really wanted to chat about in this post, but I kind of digressed!

So back to this 'Don't talk to strangers'. Now when we were kids this was referring to children not talking to adults.

Nowadays the advice that parents need to be giving their children is this:

There are some children who didn't have loving parents and some of these children end up with nasty people and are treated badly. These adults are really nasty people and they will make the children find other children, so 

Be Aware of Strange Children and NEVER GO WITH AN UNKNOWN CHILD TO A CAR

Please have this conversation with your children. I'm getting goose bumps typing this to say, yes this is really so important.

Times have changed and children are being used to entice other children to cars, where they will be chloroformed and put into a car and driven away.

Advice from Private Investigator @finnian is:

Tell your children to scream, shout, fight, kick, do whatever it takes to not be put in a car.

Now I don't want your children to grow up being paranoid of children and cars, so please have a loving conversation about this, to avoid fear and nightmares.

Awareness is knowledge which gives us better choices, than not knowing.

Sending much Pure Love, Light and Blessings to you and your children.


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Well done Michelle! Yes being honest and having a real conversation with your children about this is a must. And I agree with @healingherb, martial arts skills can come in handy when it is needed.

I tell my daughter all the time, if someone is trying to grab you, scream like bloody murder and yell fire as loud as you can, then start kicking, punching, poking eyes out whatever it takes. I watch her like a hawk as well.

Thanks Tom! I felt this information needed to be shared, and yes I totally agree about martial arts skills for self defence.

Great you're having these conversations with your daughter so she is aware of what to do. Yes I watched mine like a hawk too, except when with family . . . whole different pandora's box.

Great post and sound advice indeed. It's also not a bad idea to ask your children if they would like to learn one of the martial arts, not just for self-defence and overall awareness but also for the other benefits e.g. concentration and yes, at the higher levels, energy control and manipulation.

Thanks @healingherb.

Yes I agree that martial arts is great for self defence and confidence. Not really considered focus, control etc but also good benefits, thanks for pointing them out.

What youve said about your parents having a conversation with you instead of programming it into you by means of instruction is true, but that would only apply if you were mature,and from what you said you were a child. Children dont understand reasoning, cause they are not mentally ready for that, what they understand is instructions. Offcourse these instructions should be given in love.They might not know why they do what they do, but because we have more experience, we can tell them what to do, and when they grow up, we can then explain to them the reasons, still in love . Take for example, explaining to a child why he should not take his younger sisters toy would not stop him from doing that, cause his emotions are stronger than his will to reason, but when you instruct him not to do that, he remembers your instruction when his emotions are rising, and that restrains him.

I don't believe it is true that children don't understand reasoning. I found it totally annoying when the answer to why I should do something or not do something was 'because I'm your father and I've told you too' or 'because I just told you too'. When children understand the reason why then they are more likely to do as you've asked, rather than just giving out orders and commands.
Children are far more intuitive and intelligent than most adults give them credit for.
Thanks for your comments and for reading the post. :)

Great point you have raised, but dont forget tha we re alking bout children here and not teenagers or adults. Most children of the ages of 2-9 barely do much personal thinking cause our minds are occupied with other stuffs of which play has a huge share. I believe at that stage we should help these children make the right decisions, and if we leave them at the mercy of reasoning, anybody can come and reason with them to do the wrong thing, and because they are not mature enough, they easily fall preyto hose wolves in sheep clothing. Icant remember howmany times i was saved in my childhood by the instructions of my parents, even when those around e wer trying to give me wrong reason to do those evils (imo)

We seem to have a difference in opinion on the maturity of children, and that wasn't the message or point of the post.

The message was for parents and those looking after children to know that children are being used to entice other children into danger.

Thanks for your comments and interest in the work we are doing to raise awareness around children going missing.

Okay, was just stating my own opinion. All the best

We appreciate you being interested and commenting!
Blessings

This message is so so important. I really like the way you added 'in a loving manner' and 'with love' in everything because love should really be our language of communication especially when it comes to kids. Their minds are so tender that if we just warn them without having a logical conversation in a friendly and loving environment, we are likely to upset them and maybe turn them into rebels. I have often seen children do exactly what they are not supposed to do when they are just commanded and not given a proper explanation in a nice manner. So proud of you for doing this!

Thank you Sharoon, I do believe this is an important message too and that having a 'loving conversation' is so much more effective then just giving orders without the child understanding why.
I totally agree that children can rebel and go do the opposite, which is why understanding the reasons is so important.
Thanks for sharing your views and for your support, much appreciated! :)

My voting power has exhausted so I'm going to upvote this tomorrow :)

Thanks so much, we appreciated this! :)