I get frustrated too with the standard of which we hold ourselves to. I’m 35 years old and just starting to get to place where I accept my beautiful body for the goddess temple it is rather than constantly scrutinizing it. These poor young girls growing up with Instagram and social media dictating how they view their bodies and deeming what is “beautiful”. I’m so sick of the norm being that we should diet, we should work out until exhaustion, we should deprive ourselves of fun treats all in the name of looking “perfect” in a bikini or fitting into that dress. Usually when we get into that dress, wear that bikini or whatever the goal is, we still have parts that we criticize about our bodies. It never seems good enough. Anyway, I think your niece is very lucky to have such a strong and amazing auntie in her life to guide her to self love and not self sabotage. Us ladies have it much harder than men, in that regard. 🤦🏼♀️
Ps. A healthy avocado body is the ish and a little chunky but funky in the trunk always looks good :)
I don't think I would do well growing up in today's culture. I was soooo awkward in middle school. Like my nickname was actually "he/she" for a year until I stood up for myself. And I got called "sir" at Red Lobster one time with my family because I really was such a little tomboy, as well. If I had to deal with that and online issues it would have been a whole lot tougher. I kind of laugh at some of my friends who are so worried about getting older because like you, I have gained so much more confidence the older I get. I'm still 3 years shy of turning 40 but I'm kind of excited, haha.
I've got a couple of little ladies that I am so lucky to play a part in their lives, so I hope I can at least do some small part to counter the onslaught of social media! We ladies really do have it tough. The really crazy part? It's all for comparing ourselves to each other because most dudes I know are not that critical of the female form. So bring on the avocado toast!
Preach sista! Avocado toast for all… 🥳🥳! My best girlfriend loved her 40s. She said it’s when her kids are out of the house, her and hubby are really finacially secure and looking on to what retirement might look like, she became a grandma which is her pride and joy, and she doesn’t give a shit about what anyone thinks of her so naturally she enjoys everything much more. Haha… I love it.
I didn’t have it hard growing up only because I was very stubborn but I distinctly remember some kids that did. I never understood, even at that age, how or why kids were so mean to these people who clearly couldn’t stand up to them. It’s always disgusted me. I think if we had to deal with it at home, online too then things would be much worse for everyone. I mean, I never had to worry that one of my classmates would burst in the room and shoot us all. Today that’s a drill kids practice more than fire drills. It’s insane! I think social media dehumanizes us so being really cruel to one another doesn’t feel like a big deal anymore. It’s a weird world we live in. I’m glad I don’t have to guide a child through that.