Well I imagine it takes quite a bit of courage to share so much of yourself out in the open, despite having followed a university education for it ;-P. Nevertheless I appreciate it, since it allows me to view things from a different perspective both in gender and personality.
Sorry to say, but I find it kinda amusing to see someone having some issues with being selfish, while I apparently have issues because of my almost complete lack of selfishness.
I also kinda get where you are coming from when you are talking about struggling with balancing your food. It seems I messed up some of the wiring for my digestive system, and I'm also now having issues keeping my weight in check. Oddly enough because I used to be very physically active, I'm having an even harder time to figure out the right balance now that I'm not. Oh and I completely agree that BMI is bogus. Even at the peak of my health and fitness I was supposedly overweight while having a bodyfat percentage way under 4%.