I previously wrote about how the origin of fear is in the denial of your own power - whether that power be to survive, create what we prefer, to be loved or whatever else concerns us. Given that this definition and understanding is not commonly held by many of us, we tend to hold a variety of misunderstood and denied fears which hold us back in life and which cause us untold limitation and suffering. When we have a way to understand our emotions, we can work with them and help them to heal, balance and evolve - which frees us up to be happier, more powerful and to succeed more in what we choose to be doing; when we are ignorant of the ways of our emotions, we have no choice but to continue to suffer.
Through understanding that fear is a response to having denied our own power in some way, we open the door to finding how we have denied our power and making changes which end that denial - bringing power back into us and ending the fear too.
In the process of working through emotional issues, it sometimes becomes apparent that there are twists and turns which meant that what would have been a relatively simple emotional issue to clear, instead becomes almost impossible. For example, when we deny that we have denied something - we have no possible way to end the denial, since to us (in our mind full of deception and error) there is nothing to stop denying .... Even though there is really!
What if we are holding beliefs that say that we cannot end our fear? If fear can be a response to beliefs that we don't have enough power, what is the result of thinking that we don't have the power to address our fears or to understand the situation at all? The result is likely to be yet more fear, more denial and more loss of power.. A potentially never ending cycle of self disempowerment. We need to look carefully now at what we are really doing when we think and what we are really feeling.
Accepting that you can end fear and increase personal power is necessary now.
Fear sucks our energy and limits our thinking and possibilities. It is not wrong to acknowledge our limitations, but that does not need to include with it thoughts which place concrete boundaries around personal power. Just because you appear to not have enough power to solve a problem today, does not mean you won't gain power and be able to solve the problem in the future - so it is important to keep an open enough mind to allow changes to occur which 'seem' impossible.
If you allow yourself to be frightened of fear and of addressing your fear, then you are stuck. If you open your mind you will see how limiting this can be, yet it is fear that is partially closing the mind. We need to increase our own awareness of our own state of being first and foremost to address this self-created trap. By setting strong willed intentions to heal your fear and to increase self acceptance and honesty/open-ness in the process, it becomes possible to set a chain of transformational events in motion which will lead you into more of your parts that you need to feel and access in order to heal and free up more of your emotions.
By accepting that fear can be healed and accepting that you are not wrong/bad/weak/foolish for having created fear, you can begin to nurture your aspects back to health. All beliefs which say that you cannot do this must be found and allowed to be released - this may sound simple, but we are often only partially aware/conscious of everything that we are thinking and so this process may take a while as deeper layers of previously unconscious thoughts and parts of self begin to receive the light of consciousness.
A simple process for healing fear
Until we have direct experience of this process it can sound complicated and intimidating, but intimidation is just another way that fear has of changing our direction in life - there is no need to be timid here and just noticing how you feel when you are timid can be enough to lead you into peace and greater awareness of the CAUSES of your feelings (which are usually thoughts that do not serve you).
To simplify and clarify what I am pointing to here, I have put together a few points that can work together to help:
- Do not avoid your fear. Feelings are here to help you and they only SEEM problematic because we avoid them and just like an untended garden, that's when they can become gnarly instead of beautiful.
- End denial. Part of accepting fear and all of self involves accepting that you have been denying real feelings, including fear. Noticing where you have been denying things is the first step to stopping denying them.
- Feel the fear and ask it what it needs. Our emotions are conscious and can actually express as thoughtforms with voices inside of us. Essentially, they will usually be saying what we ourselves would say if we were to scream while expressing the emotion. When you ask this part of you what you need there, if you have a loving intent, you may receive answers about what needs to change before the emotions can be free to change in response.
- Prioritise your emotions above your outer reality. Our modern world is overloading our senses with advertising and information as people vie for our attention and thus our money. Most of this is not helpful for us and distracts us from what we really need to be attentive to. It would be a huge tragedy if we were to lose our own beauty due to us ignoring our real feelings because we were distracted by marketing for fizzy drinks and so on. By being aware of how your point of focus is drawn towards bright lights and other triggers that distract away from how you feel inside, you can begin to change your patterns so that your focus is more inward and more respecting of your inner world and senses.
- Allow your feelings to vibrate as sound in private. Every emotion has a sound signature that needs to be made by the body for the emotion to truly get moving, be free'd and to quickly evolve. Not everyone is loving and accepting enough to allow others to do this without ridiculing them or judging them. Such people do not serve you and privacy is key when starting to get these emotions in motion!
Wishing you well,
Ura Soul
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"By setting strong willed intentions to heal your fear and to increase self acceptance and honesty/open-ness in the process, it becomes possible to set a chain of transformational events in motion which will lead you into more of your parts that you need to feel and access in order to heal and free up more of your emotions."
Great post, you've given some good insight into facing and embracing fear. Really detailed and well conveyed. This speaks to me as "we are no longer trying to control it and wrestle with it or run from it and deny it. But rather truly FEEL and accept it. Embrace it and listen to it. So that we can then transmute it and be freed." Thank you for this, resteemed!
Thankyou - yes, you understand - I am glad to be able to reflect back who we really are and give thanks to those who cam before who cut the paths that led them being able to reflect me to me too! <3
Keep teaching and reflecting! <3
I love your post, @ura-soul! I must admit that I was sceptical about it when I first clicked on it. Based on the title ( "How to End/Heal Your Fear. Ending Fear Is Necessary for Survival") I thought that you are going to make a point for "excluding" fear from our experiental spectrum or somehow battle it away. Which would, imho, clearly be the same as cutting a juicy, vibrant and precious part, a precious growth opportunity out of our human experinece.
But what your post delivers - an insightful, differentiated, practical view on fear - is exactly the opposite. You are urging us to be braver, more authentic. You are pointing a way for greater self-knowledge beyond the realms of ill understood positive psychology ("Just smile, no matter what!"). I deeply appreciate this reminder!
Had to resteem this one @ura-soul it is so appropriate for today's time. The world has been conditioned to live under fear.
Letting go of fear is a very hard one for most. It is ingrained in us even in public schools when we are very young. (another reason children should be homeschooled) but through TV, media etc. too and many are not aware of how much fear they do hold within themselves.Oh yes, the fear is often put there deliberately as a way to control others. Any thought which sets up a feeling and reality where we lack power is one that can cause fear... Schools and many establishments are often deliberately designed to do this and it is killing us slowly.. So now we must evolve. :)
Thank you for the post! Fear can only effect you if you allow it to I guess! I try to feel and understand my fear during meditations and I think it helps me out a lot =]
I feel fear is just a signal that we have causal beliefs, thoughts and imprints which are causing the fear to exist at all.. When this is understood, the emotions can breathe a sigh of relief as we learn not to hold them responsible for what they have little ability to change. The thinking mind often likes to think it is not the cause of the things it doesn't like, but we need to change that and bring the unconscious into consciousness - meditations can certainly help clear our way there, yes.
@ura-soul i love this everything about it.
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Thankyou! Followed back! I am exceptionally busy at the moment, but I'll see what I can do!
Thanks a lot for this. Great work as always. Ive got this article pinned for reference - fear is one of the most powerful control mechanisms yet it is so easy to instill in most people.
You are welcome - yes, fear is used for control. Controlling fear only adds to the problem and limits free will.
As always well written @ura-soul. This time you even present some practical advice for healing, I will try these methods out.
Thanks - my heart healing series expands on this as do some other posts along the way.
I really like this. When I experience anxiety, I experience it for the same reasons - denial of personal power, attempts to ignore the anxiety, fixation on the thoughts that the anxiety spins around... Thanks for sharing these effective strategies to leveling up our mental landscapes.
You are welcome! Thanks for letting us know your experience here. <3
best post. thanks for sharing.
I do meditation to relieve fear and control excessive emotion.
with regular practice I can become stronger .
I suggest re-reading my posts on these topics since emotional control is the cause of emotional problems, not the solution.
fear stp you from doind anything in the world .. and we should centrol it
controlling emotion stops us doing things just as fear does. through ending control, we can become free.
agree
Ever taken LSD? The FEAR is not of your own powers or abilities. The fear is not of anything of this earth, not of pain or of hardship. The fear, all fear, comes from once source—death and it's inevitability.