It's not fun realizing that there are entire packs of f#$ked up [12 year old guys and girls] just waiting to pounce onto your next video. It's a disturbing scenario.
"Haters" could be considered a stepping stone to success. Our old YouTube joke was, "You haven't really "made" it til you've got yourself a fine collection of haters!" And to quote you, "Being friendly in a detached way will get you to the moon." Seek out the good ones and focus your energy on them. Deflect and Ignore the time-sucking energy vampire haters.
The last time I was in a steemit.chat, someone called me a c%$t. That was my last hurrah.
I was also "harassed" early on by some bozo in steem.chat named Walden - maybe he's the same pea brain who was trying to be "friends" with you by calling you names. 12 year old boys like to hit girls when they like them, and 12 year old girls sometimes do it too when they like a boy. They mostly just don't know any better. But they do seem to know more curse words and slurs than all of us combined! As for the older haters, maybe that's their demented idea of "connecting" with someone, especially if it garners an actual response.
The real problem on YouTube is management and their agendas. We finally gave up after so many of our YouTube videos were repeatedly demonetized or even knocked down completely for being either "too explicit" or "inappropriate" without any real logic or rationale. Yet, the users who would make comments such as "wish you got aids and died in the WTC" rarely seemed to get banned or suspended.
At the end of the day, it's YouTube's management team who like, sets the, like, tone and, like, the direction... YouTube CEO: Don't interrupt me with your microaggressions!
And just check out a few of the nasty comments on this video I posted back in 2008. These "slurs" are probably some of the less "offensive" ones we received. And yes, I'm a guy, or should I say I'm a lifeform who identifies as a human with a dangle between my angle!
One thing I did want to add, some of the worst misogyny we did experience on YouTube were from Middle Easterners on some of Michelle's cocktail videos. They wrote that her actions were "Haram" (Arabic term meaning "forbidden"). They called her a "pig infidel", and said she should be "gutted". I could go on but it only gets worse. YouTube did nothing about it, cuz, well you know, Islam is the "religion of peace". It seems in general many of them define "peace" in a very different way than we do...
On the subject of YouTube's management "failings", while they're busy "dealing" with users that don't quite suit their "agenda"...
NYPost Link: YouTube loses major advertisers over offensive content
Yeah, I think you're correct. But if you're a new person just wanting to connect with people and are not familiar with mass harassment....and those dudes commenting did take up a bulk of the responses, it's just not worth it. I totally get her and at one point on Steemit when I had AN ACTUAL STALKER, with no means to get rid of him, I thought about quitting Steemit. This shit is bad.