We actually are pretty non sexual. I have been living here a little over a month and we kinda tried to have sex once in that time. We mostly just cuddle and do closed mouth kisses. My last ex wanted a lot of sex and it caused some real issues. We are also very much loners. We stay in most of the time and are content that way. I have friends but mainly they are online, same with him. We are um....I don't know how functioning. I guess high. He works every day. I don't even know if I could. The less I work on going out and making myself socialize the less I feel capable of doing it. At this point I publish coloring books and make art and tee shirt designs and stuff. I have trouble managing my day to day life but that could be do to other mental issues I have. Oh, and he and I both seem younger than we are. XD I feel super fortunate to be with him because I don't think I could have a functioning relationship with an NT honestly.
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Fascinating. It's very heartening to hear that you and your partner share emotional intimacy. I think neurotypicals (like me) naturally assume that asexual couples lack an emotional or mental connection. You must be high-functioning since you're living on your own and currently seeking solutions for your health issues. I hear you re: "the less I work on going out and making myself socialize the less I feel capable of doing it." As someone dealing with self-isolation, I understand what you mean which is why I'm going all-out with my September Experiments (posted on my blog) in order to break free of the "quiet velvet cave" that I'm enjoying too much. My therapist told me that once you begin to narrow and limit your world in order to feel less discomfort...the more uncomfortable it becomes to break out of the small hole you've dropped yourself into. At the same time, I don't believe people with Asperger's should be manipulated or forced into into having a social life as I can see just how difficult and annoying it is for many of them, especially those with sensory issues. I think, given your health issues and traumatic childhood experiences, you're doing so well. I hope your friends, those IRL and those online, tell you how wonderful you are because you really are. Your spirit shines through everything you say.
Eh, I have been on and off homeless most of my life and live on my own only because Greg offered me a home when I was facing homelessness yet again. I would be screwed otherwise. But I am seeking help and am making it, sorta. I am getting better! He is much older than me, he's 44 in a few days and he said it took him many years to get better. He lived at home for a long time, until his late 30's at least. Then he moved to another state to be with a girl and when they broke up he stayed. So we both have not been exactly capable but we are doing it now. It helps to have a partner that understands. I have a lot of sensory issues. I have misophonia which is repetitive sounds driving me crazy but I also just get sensory overload in general and have had to run away from crowded places due to it.
Aw, thank you so much. :') I do have some seriously amazing friends that remind me of my worth and keep me going. I would be so lost without all of my friends. Even if the interactions are online. :) Works for me!
I do feel like I am in a bit of a comfort zone rut but I am trying to break out by trying out many new types of art, photography, and publishing more books and stuff. As long as I diversify my hobbies and art I feel vitality.
Oh and yes, people with aspies can very much have strong emotional connections and be romantic even those who are pretty non sexual. I am very romantic myself and Greg is super sentimental also. :)